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How to Attract True Love

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

How can I use the law of attraction to manifest true love with the perfect man for me?
Kezzer

Dear Kezzer:

There are a couple of ideas we need to explore before moving on to the subject of manifesting true love.

While reunions with soul mates tend to happen on a destined schedule, in many cases, we may have some control over the speed with which we draw certain people into our lives. Usually such reunions occur when ‘the time is right’ and ‘the stars align.’ Other times, the only thing holding us up is a lack of readiness for such a relationship on our part or the part of the one we’re seeking.

It’s important to realize that the perfect relationship for us at any given time may not be one that is meant to last a lifetime or fulfill all our dreams for love, passion and harmony. We are all in the process of healing old wounds, working through old karma and growing into greater personal potential, and the greatest forum for doing so is our relationships. This means that every relationship is perfect for us at that time, for it is there to fulfill some desire or teach us something we need to learn in order to move on to a higher experience of love.

This doesn’t mean that we have to take whatever comes our way. In fact, there are lots of things we can do to prepare ourselves for true love. Should we have to wait on destiny in order to meet up with a certain individual, we can also create a delightful experience of love in the mean time.

One of the most common misconceptions I run into in my counseling work is the idea that if a relationship doesn’t work out, something must have gone wrong. In fact, all relationships arise for a good reason, and from a higher spiritual perspective, these become clear as underlying patterns of experience. It can therefore be very helpful to seek higher awareness via meditation, hypnotherapy and other spiritual practices, or via spiritual counseling with a gifted intuitive reader, for when we become conscious of the issues we’re working on, we can spark breakthroughs and fast progress.

The first thing I recommend is to work on any subconscious (or conscious) issues that may be holding you back from a fulfilling romantic experience. We all have these issues, for behind and beneath all we do there is profound longing to be loved and to love others on a deep, rich level. Further, we’ve all had painful or less than fulfilling experiences of love in the past, and if these are left unresolved, unhealed or incomplete somehow, they will hold us back from greater fulfillment until they are addressed.

All of this is perfect, for it’s what propels us toward personal growth and spiritual evolution. Our longing for a deeper sense of happiness and fulfillment keeps us trying, which is all we need to keep doing in order to naturally discover, heal and release old wounds, karma and issues. In my view, it is love and the longing for love that makes the world go ’round and gets us out of bed each morning.

As each person is a unique and beautiful individual, the issues holding people back from true love are unique and personal to them. This is another reason why it’s important to go beyond the advice and philosophies of self-help gurus and get our hands dirty by embracing spiritual practices and therapies.

There are some general common stumbling blocks, of course. I think we’re all familiar with how a lack of self-esteem can prevent people from pursuing a relationship that is truly healthy and fulfilling. Similarly, fears of rejection and abandonment hold many people back from fulfilling their dreams for love. Limiting beliefs about what is possible in love are also common obstacles. When these issues remain unconscious, they hold us emotionally hostage until they are faced, worked through and transformed to align with a higher level of experience.

Whenever we find ourselves in a pattern that is frustrating or unfulfilling, we are therefore wise to look to our inner world. To make new progress, we must examine old wounds, deep fears and limiting beliefs, and continue to stretch ourselves to heal, empower ourselves and reach for greater personal potential. If you feel blocked, I highly recommend hypnotherapy, through which you can go back and heal and release old wounds and also cultivate new beliefs and a more constructive approach to love.

As I mentioned above, there are things we can do to align with a delightful experience of love even as we’re doing whatever inner work is necessary in order to prepare for the soul mate experience our souls are yearning for.

How we feel about love is ultra-important, for we tend to manifest what we expect, and what we focus upon grows larger in our experience. Just as it is important to let go of worrying about symptoms and focus on well-being in order to cultivate good health, we are wise to look past whatever we lack in terms of love and focus on embodying love itself in order to manifest more of it in our lives.

The more we give our attention to love with a positive feeling, the more we become magnets for it in all sorts of wonderful ways. If you don’t have a partner to shower with love and affection yet, you can love the one you’re with, by which I mean that you infuse all the relationships already in your life with more love. Flow love to your friends, family, neighbors and acquaintances. Upon greeting someone, say to yourself, The love in me greets the love in thee. Visualize your heart chakra openly flowing love and good will to everyone you meet.

One of the most powerful tools for working with the law of attraction is to write the story of what you want to happen in the past tense. The key to infusing this exercise with lots of power lies in the emotional vibration it carries you into.

First just sit for a few moments and think about all you long for in love. Imagine yourself with a partner who has all the traits you find attractive. Take a few moments to get very clear about how you want to feel. Allow images to come to you as you do this. You may imagine yourself receiving flowers, going on dates and kissing someone passionately. You may see yourself attending family functions with your partner on your arm. You may imagine how wonderful it will be to have someone you adore to snuggle up with in bed. Allow this to just flow naturally.

Now sit down and write out the story of how you found this love. This is not going to be published, so don’t censor yourself. Do make sure your phrasing is positive, however, and most importantly, take time as you write this to pause and sink into all the wonderful feelings that imagining this brings up for you. If you really get into this exercise, your heart will soon be soaring. You will feel like your chest is tingling or expanding with light or energy – this is what you want!

Once your story is complete and you’ve basked in all those wonderful feelings for a while, let it go. You can put it away in a drawer or file it away on your computer. It doesn’t matter. You’re not going to go back to it because you’re going to trust that what you desire has been set in motion, and the love you long for is already on its way to you.

If you now just consciously strive to embody and flow love to everyone you meet, and you stay in a high vibration, soon delightful love will be knocking on your door.

 

– Soul Arcanum

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Cultivating Romantic Chemistry

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Dear Soul Arcanum:
I have been trying to attract new love into my life using the law of attraction. Two years ago, I had a few dates with a great guy who has all the qualities I’m looking for. We could talk and laugh for hours. We went on four dates, and then I backed out because I was unable to feel sexually attracted to him and figured it would be better to stop sooner rather than later. I kept his number in my cell phone, and a couple of months ago when I seriously started praying for new love and trying to attract it into my life, I started noticing his name in my cell phone book. Every time I tried to visualize this new love, he would pop into my mind. I thought perhaps I should give it another try. We’ve now reconnected, and it’s just as easy and natural as it was before. We’re even on the same page spiritually in terms of what we’ve been up to recently. We’ve seen each other again, and it was wonderful, but I was still not physically attracted. I’m wondering what’s happening with me. Am I resisting attraction at an unconscious level because part of me is still afraid of men? (I’ve always been more attracted to men who weren’t good for me.) Am I trying to force myself into a relationship with this guy because I know he would be a wonderful partner? If I get to know him better, might I become sexually attracted to him?
S.

Dear S.:

First it’s important to note that whenever we have trouble manifesting something we think we really desire, there are usually lessons we need to learn or wounds we need to heal that are tripping us up. When it comes to finding a soul mate, there are lots of issues that can cause people to search endlessly in vain. Many people do block chemistry due to various fears; I see this all the time in my own friends and the clients I counsel. For example, I know a number of women who only want what they can’t have: they find everyone who is attracted to them to be inadequate for some reason, and always get hung up on guys who are out of their league, married, or somehow unavailable, which effectively prevents them from getting seriously involved with anyone.

Many people have deep psychic wounds that need to be healed. If women were abused, raped, shamed for being sexual or rejected in this life or another lifetime, those wounds must be healed in order for them to have a healthy, fulfilling sex life. (Women who died in childbirth in past lives often have sexual problems in future lives as well.) Similarly, men who were abused, raped, shouldered with the heavy burdens of providing for an unexpected family, unable to sexually perform, infected with an STD, or romantically rejected must also heal those wounds to find sexual fulfillment.

Deep issues aside, there are all sorts of energetic interactions constantly happening between people. These largely determine whether we feel drawn to them as well as the quality of relationship we form with them. For example, you can meet someone who seems really nice on the surface and yet feel uneasy around them because on an unconscious level, you sense that who they are pretending to be is not who they really are.

There are two issues at work here: how we are vibrating, and how we are vibrating in relationship to another individual. We have tremendous control over our own vibration, and some control over how we vibrationally relate to others.

We can cultivate passion and sensuality just like we manifest anything else in life. For example, I had a lover long ago who awakened me to a new level of sensuality. Until my experiences with him, I had been rather repressed but didn’t know it. We were amazing together, for he brought me sensually to life.

This taught me that it’s possible to bring out in lovers whatever turns us on. To awaken another, however, we must first embody the sensuality we’re hoping to find instead of looking for someone else to make it happen for us. So instead of looking for someone with whom you have good chemistry, you might try becoming more passionate and sensual yourself, focusing energetically on what you want to manifest, and setting that tone for whatever relationship you want to evoke good chemistry in. In this particular relationship, you can focus on cultivating all kinds of sensual pleasure, evoking the wonderful lover in him, and enjoying yourself no matter what.

This approach will only take us so far in particular relationships, however, just like being kind will only take us so far with certain people. If their idea of being a good friend is way off from our own, then we’re just not going to click. Similarly, if we don’t even really like someone, we won’t find them sexually attractive, or if they have sexual issues that need to be healed, they may not be ready to engage at the higher level of experience we’re longing for.

Of course, just as every combination of elements produces a different chemical reaction, there are all sorts of different chemistries between people. It’s particularly interesting to observe how new babies in a family will immediately demonstrate great rapport with some family members and show an aversion to others. No doubt this is in part due to past life experiences/karma.

Regardless how it comes to be, the chemistry between any two people is determined by the quality of the vibration of the relationship. Just as the individuals in the relationship have personal vibrations, the relationship itself has a certain feeling or tone.

Music offers us a great metaphor for understanding this better. Let’s say that everyone has an overall vibration that matches a certain note of the scale, and whenever we get together with one or more other people, we strike a chord. Clearly, there will be some combinations that sound really good and others that are discordant.

When we meet someone who shares our personal note, we feel like they are very much like us. We are kindred spirits, so we communicate and get along very well. It sounds like you and this wonderful man are very similar in nature, which is why you feel so at ease around him.

When we meet someone who has a different vibration but one that sounds really good with our own, we complement each other. The more complex but complementary a chord is, the more interesting it sounds. This is when you get a very passionate sort of bond, for you are different enough to be fascinated by each other, but at the same time, you complement each other or sound good together. Even when we are very similar to someone else, however, we can create a melody with them that is simple but moving and beautiful.

All of this is a gross oversimplification, of course, for we are all so much more than one note, and we are forever changing. This is where we have a lot of room to play at creating something beautiful. I believe that we can cultivate good chemistry with anyone we basically like, respect, and feel good around. If we are too similar, it may become sort of routine after a while, but every relationship feels like that after we’ve ironed out all the kinks – it just happens sooner rather than later when we’re highly compatible with someone. On the other hand, with someone who is too different from us, we may feel intense passion but so much conflict that it’s just not worth it.

Life is full of beautiful people and endless opportunities for passion and pleasure. To find deep fulfillment, we must become within what we seek in our outer experience, and make the most of love wherever and however we may find it.

– Soul Arcanum

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Shifting into a Higher Level of Fulfillment in Love

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

My name is Anne. Glenn is a man that I have been involved with on and off for the last two and a half years. Our relationship has been very stormy and painful for me. When I learned that I had breast cancer in March of 2006, he suddenly moved away. Basically he was running away from my pain. I went through treatment and am now fine. In February he called me and we talked for the first time in almost a year. In March, he came out for business and we saw each other. We ended up being intimate, which kicked up my attachment again. Our relationship revolved around sex. I wanted a lot more and I felt emotionally starved, yet I couldn’t walk away. I was in denial of the truth – that he wanted me on his own terms, and he couldn’t get too close. I always feel that I somehow want to make it right between us, but I don’t even know what that means. I don’t know how to let go. He has such a strong hold on my heart. He is a great artist and has a powerful shamanic side. I am so attracted to that part of him and the sexual connection is so powerful that I find it wrenching to end all contact, yet I feel that’s the only way to move on and hopefully find a true soul mate. Do you have any advice for me on this painful situation? Many blessings to you! – Anne

Dear Anne:

I chose your question because your struggle is such a common one. I frequently hear from women who are suffering from unrequited love, who can’t seem to get over a certain relationship, or who feel miserably, karmically bound to someone and can’t break free no matter what they do. It can happen to a man, but it’s not nearly as common.

There is a very powerful biological reason that women and men generally approach sex and romantic commitment very differently. It’s not just because they were raised in cultures that taught them to be different – those cultural norms arose from biological realities. The fact is that women have far more at stake in sexual relations than men do: if they get pregnant, they take on the greatest challenge and responsibility I can imagine – that of caring for a new life.

This may also be why women’s bodies respond differently to the sex act than men’s do. Whether a woman is in love with her partner or has just met him at a bar, during orgasm, hormones will flood her body that make her feel like she is falling in love. This doesn’t happen with men, so when it comes to having sex, women have far more at stake on all levels: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. It is thus wise for women to wait until they know a man well and have established that they want the same things in a relationship before getting physically intimate.

On a metaphysical level, our auras reflect what is happening in our bodies. Just as having sex with someone will cause a flood of physical changes, we create energetic ties to that person in our auras. The more we feed those cords of connection through further contact and thinking of that person with love, longing, or other strong emotions, the stronger those cords get.

When women experience a surge of hormones that makes them feel like they’re falling in love after sex, they begin to feed those cords mental and emotional energy, which in turn causes another flood of those hormones, for what we experience in our minds affects our bodies. This creates a cyclic loop that can lead to a state of obsession. Because the hormones involved are so pleasurable, it’s like being addicted to something like cocaine. Since men generally aren’t experiencing anything like this, it’s easier for them to break things off or move on.

On a spiritual level, many people find lovers who are somewhat hard to get extra appealing, and most of the time, it’s because they have some self-esteem issues they are in the process of working out. Part of developing self-love and wisdom involves recognizing that just because someone doesn’t seem to want us as much as we want them, that doesn’t mean that they are better than we are. These sorts of relationship experiences generally lead us through some deep pain, but on the other side, we end up affirming our worthiness of something better.

Whenever someone continues to go back for more from a relationship where their partner repeatedly fails to consider their needs, betrays them, abandons them in a time of need, or makes them feel they’re not important to them, you can be sure there are self-esteem issues involved.

Often when we are in relationship to someone who has better self-esteem than we do – someone who allows himself to want what he wants and live as he chooses – we are attracted not so much to who he is as a person, but to his self-esteem. We want to feel good enough about ourselves to honor our true needs and desires as he does.

We’re also strongly attracted to people who are living dreams we want to live ourselves. It sounds to me like you would like to be an artist and a shaman, and would like to feel less needy in relationships, just like Glenn. THOSE are the things you’re really in lust with, my friend!

These sorts of relationships don’t come into our lives to fulfill our desire for a perfect partner, but to help us realize our own potential. This happens in an organic way because we are naturally attracted to people who embody what we are longing to become or are in the process of working on.

My advice is to let go of needing this to be more than it wants to be, and take the best of what it has to offer you. In this case, I feel that means allowing this relationship to illuminate your own needs and desires, and how you might begin to honor those better. It will really help if you replace all the exciting feelings you have about Glenn with other things that turn you on, so get involved in your own art, in exploring shamanism, or some other personal passion.

If you want a partner who is passionately into you, let yourself have that instead of trying to be happy with a man who doesn’t want what you want and isn’t willing to compromise on his desires. Once you’ve learned whatever this relationship has to teach you, you will have awakened new potential in this area of your life, and will naturally attract a relationship experience that is better suited to you. You may then begin to work on some other life lesson, and be able to enjoy a healthy, loving relationship with a man while you do so.

Basically, once you love YOURSELF the way you want to be loved, you will attract a partner who loves and honors your true desires and feelings similarly. Just focus on how you want to feel about yourself and your love life, and allow whoever is the best match to your desires to flow into your life and your heart.

I do understand your desire to make things right. I always want everyone to be happy and at peace with me too, but we can’t control how other people feel. All we can do is be lovingly honest about how we feel and what we need to do to take good care of ourselves, while at the same time making it clear that we honor the other person’s need to do the same. Even if others don’t share our feelings or our preferences for the way things turn out, we’ll be at peace, for we’ll know we’ve done all we could do given the divine truth we found in our own hearts.

– Soul Arcanum

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Others Get What She’s Trying to Manifest

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

It seems like as soon as I decide to manifest something, someone else I know gets it! For example, I’ve been divorced for eight years now, and I really want to fall in love again. People are falling in love all around me (including my ex, who just got engaged!), but not me. Also, I’m forever worried about just paying my rent, while other people are spending money on all sorts of luxuries. It’s making me really frustrated and jealous! Are these people getting what I am trying to manifest because they are near me? Are some people just better at manifesting than others? I seem to have some kind of block, for it seems like I never get what I want, but everyone else gets what I want and then some. What’s going on? – Amy

Dear Amy:

One logical reason you might see other people enjoying the things you’ve been trying to manifest is simply because you are focused on those things, so you notice them whenever they come up. At the same time, however, your jealousy speaks volumes about the probable roots of your manifesting frustration, for if you begrudge someone else something, you will indeed keep yourself from similar blessings.

People basically react in one of two ways when they hear about others’ good fortune: they either feel jealous, like it’s not fair that someone else has what they want and they don’t, or they feel encouraged, because if other people can manifest those things, that means they probably can too.

Our habitual reaction to others’ happiness greatly impacts our ability to manifest what we want in our lives. If we smile upon others’ blessings, we will tend to be great at manifesting for a couple of reasons: First, what we send out to the Universe (including what we wish for other people) is what we get back. Second, how we FEEL when we focus on what we desire determines our power to attract it.

You see, what we think and feel on a regular basis is what we are practicing to experience in the future. If we focus on money with a happy feeling, we metaphysically align with happy prosperity. If we focus on money with a feeling of jealousy or frustration, it will be hard to manifest what we want, and even if we do, we’ll still feel dissatisfied.

Many of us learn our habitual response from the family we grew up in, but what’s more important is who we are on a soul level. We’re all born with various strengths and weaknesses based on our past life experiences. As a result, some people seem to have an innate understanding of the law of attraction, for they’ve mastered this in other lives. These spiritually evolved folks also tend to have a high vibration, so it’s easy for them to create what they want.

Since what we wish for others is what we get ourselves, one of the most powerful things we can do to initiate a manifesting breakthrough is to wish everyone else the fulfillment we desire. For folks who already feel like life is unfair to them, this can be really challenging, but that also means that overcoming that challenge will make a really big difference.

For example, if you can’t seem to find true love no matter what you do, ask yourself how you feel around people who are in love. Do you feel annoyed or jealous because they have what you want? If so, try to shift your perspective, and instead of feeling jealous, look at that love around you as a sign that you are in the process of manifesting love yourself.

It may be in someone else’s experience now, but if it’s close enough for you to notice it, it must be moving into your world! Further, instead of feeling resentful because your ex has manifested happiness in love again, take it as evidence that you can do the same thing. You can apply this line of reasoning to every sort of situation in which someone else is manifesting something you want.

In addition to viewing these developments as positive signs, you’ll want to evaluate what you are sending out to the Universe in the form of what you wish for other people. In particular, look for any relationships or situations where you begrudge someone else some blessing.

For example, if thinking about how your ex-husband is engaged leaves you feeling jealous, you are begrudging him new love. This won’t dent his happiness, but it will keep you from creating the same. (It may help to know that he wouldn’t object to you falling in love again – otherwise, he could never have manifested that blessing himself.)

To evaluate your power as a conscious creator of prosperity, you might ask yourself a couple of key questions: When you want more money, do you focus first on how you might earn more, or on how you wish someone (like your ex-husband) would give you more of theirs? Do you give to others in kind, or are you something of a taker? Are you conscientious about paying your bills on time?

Visualizing lots of money won’t do you much good if at the same time you aren’t giving to others what you want to receive yourself. So if you don’t pay your debts in full and on time, you are depriving others (whether it’s a person or a business doesn’t matter) of their due.

I once knew a woman who was always struggling financially, and because she had so much fear about money, she did all sorts of things that kept her in lack. For example, she’s the sort of person who would buy a fancy dress, tuck the tags inside, wear it to a party and then try to return the dress to the store.

In fact, she often experienced buyer’s remorse, and would get in arguments with store clerks when she tried to return merchandise that the store couldn’t resell because she’d used it. She seemed to believe that the store owed her something simply for being more successful than she was. She doesn’t understand that whenever we try to get back more than we put in, we eventually end up with the short end of the deal.

To break through this sort of block, all we have to do is practice the golden rule. In her case, she’d have to treat the store as she’d want to be treated if she were the owner.

Also, when we do the wrong thing to someone else to fulfill our own desires, we just end up hurting ourselves. This is more than karma, for we start to feel bad about ourselves, and on a deep (perhaps unconscious) level, we may believe we don’t deserve the happiness we long for or expect to be punished in some way.

By contrast, when we stretch ourselves to do the right thing by others even though we’re afraid for ourselves, we set ourselves up for success, and end up believing that we deserve the best from life. If instead of hoping others will give us more than we give them, we are generous and try to give more than we receive, do more than we are paid to do, show others more courtesy and respect than they show us, and love even more than we are loved, we’ll naturally manifest an abundance of blessings.

So to turn things around, I recommend you just start giving to others what you desire for yourself. As the world’s happiest, most successful people have discovered, the key to success is not getting others to give us what we want, but rather, helping other people get what they want. If you shift your approach, I’m sure you’ll turn your manifesting results around too.

– Soul Arcanum

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Spiritual Business Marketing

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I’m a psychic medium like you, but I’m still working full-time in a dental office to pay the bills. I’ve been reading for some five years now and truly believe this is my calling. I have been longing to break away from my regular job so I can do spiritual work full-time, but I’m afraid to take the leap. As I’ve been reading Soul Arcanum since way back when it was Psychic Journal, I know that you have had long-term success with working in this field. How did you do it? What do you consider the keys to your success? Also, can you recommend spiritual marketing ideas? Thanks so much for your work!
– Martha

Dear Martha:

First you must believe that you can manifest the career you desire. In readings, Spirit often recommends that people wanting to leave the “security” of their jobs in order to start a new business get the new endeavor well underway before they give up their regular paycheck, because it’s wise and powerful to launch new beginnings from a place of relaxed confidence as opposed to fear.

I assure you, if others can do it, you can too. Even if others haven’t done it, you can make it happen. My own career is indeed a great example. I can’t tell you how many times throughout my life I was told it was impractical to expect to make a good living as a writer. When I decided I also wanted to focus on spirituality, set my own hours, work from home, and have total creative autonomy over my work, folks just laughed. Within a month, however, that career was mine!

Here’s how I did it:

When my daughter was born I chose to stay at home with her. When she was just a baby, my psychic abilities were in full swing and the internet was starting to take off. My interest in psychic matters led me to chat rooms where I saw a lot of dismal reading work taking place. I knew I could do better, and decided to build a website and offer genuine readings at an affordable price.

Once I’d built my website, I had to generate some traffic, and in pondering this, was drawn to the idea of creating an “energy ball” that would fuel my desire. I meditated on what I wanted (lots of website traffic) and then I began to mentally draw universal creative energy into my body via my crown chakra. When I was filled with vibrant power, I imagined that energy flowing down my arms into my hands, where I visualized a big ball of energy growing between my fingertips.

I cultivated this ball until it was big and pulsing with a life of its own, and then I mentally “placed” it above my computer. I set the intention of it being endlessly fed by the universe, and a river of energy constantly flowing into it and then on toward my aim.

This actually worked! With no advertising, somehow people started finding my site. (This was way back before web crawlers; in fact, Yahoo was brand new and pretty much the only user-friendly search engine on the ‘net.) Later I adapted the focus of this exercise to specifically generate readings, and when I kept that ball glowing, the readings streamed in.

With every reading request I received, I also tried to “over-deliver.” I always aim to exceed my clients’ expectations, to leave them feeling that they have gotten something really wonderful for a low price. As the Universe abhors a vacuum, it’s actually impossible to truly over-deliver, just as it’s impossible to get something for nothing. When we try to over-deliver, however, we end up getting back just as much as we try to give in the form of appreciation, fulfillment, referrals and success.

A couple of years later when I found myself facing divorce, I had to start making a lot more money and fast. Being a single mom is challenging enough; being a self-employed single mom was unnerving. As I knew I was following my dharma in my work, I trusted Spirit to support me. I began to just ask Spirit to help me manifest whatever I needed, and one blessing after another unfolded.

At this point I was guided to begin more consciously working with the law of attraction. The best method I’ve personally found involves writing the story of what you desire in the past tense as though it has already happened. This may work best for me mainly because I’m a writer; there are lots of other techniques you can try.

While I don’t have space to go into all the details of how I came to know that this truly works, I can assure you that I have experienced amazing results with it. It’s how I ended up as editor of Psychic Journal/Soul Arcanum.

I did some other things that have proven pivotal to my success, and thus I continue to do them to this day: I put integrity first in everything I do, I work hard to stay on top of all the mundane tasks involved, I trust Spirit to support and guide me, and I listen to my intuition every step of the way.

Contrary to popular opinion, working with the law of attraction involves more than just wishing what we want into being. We must also regularly take inspired action and be willing to invest our time, energy and other resources in creating what we want. There are no true “lucky breaks” in the Universe; we create our own good luck and get back what we are willing to put in, whether we’re focused on relationships, business endeavors, parenting, etc.

That doesn’t necessarily mean we have to work hard, but we do have to be willing to work hard if that’s what’s called for. I can’t tell you the number of spiritually evolved people I know who understand the law of attraction and yet endlessly struggle with prosperity issues because they don’t really want to give their dreams their all. They keep hoping that someone else – the Universe, their friends, the fairies etc. – will do the work for them.

So to manifest the psychic career of your dreams:

*First decide that you will keep integrity your number one priority. No amount of money is ever worth the price of your self-respect or karma. Honesty and integrity are essential to long-term success. I am frequently told that I should charge much more for my readings, but I don’t believe in charging any more for a reading than I would personally pay for the same service – and I love a bargain.

*Next, start working with the law of attraction, and as you get results in the form of clients, always TRY to over-deliver. If you try to give your clients a little more than they pay you for, your success will grow and grow. You will have very satisfied clients, truly believe in yourself and your work, and receive lots of praise and referrals.

*Make a habit of asking Spirit for guidance and then act on the answers and impulses you receive. The more you work with Spirit, the more Spirit will work with you. After a few frustrating experiences early on in my psychic career, I asked Spirit to send me only the very best clients. I didn’t want requests for winning lottery numbers – I wanted to work at a very deep level to help kind, self-aware people manifest spiritual healing and fulfillment. Ever since then I have enjoyed the most wonderful clients imaginable.

*Then just devote yourself to doing whatever must be done to manifest success. That doesn’t mean you have to work 24/7; I have molded my career around the needs of my family. I’m able to pick my kids up from school, take them to their sporting events, help them with their homework, etc. I do, however, work a lot of early mornings and late nights, and pretty much every Saturday and Sunday as well. My friends often say I work too much, but I know that my passionate devotion to my children, my work and my marriage is what fuels my “success” and fulfillment in those areas of my life.

I truly believe that if you put your heart and your soul into manifesting what you want and allow Spirit to guide you, your dreams will blossom before your very eyes.

– Soul Arcanum

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If We Create Our Own Realities, Why Get Psychic Readings?

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how the law of attraction and psychic readings mesh…
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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I’ve been reading your column for years now, and there’s one thing I’m confused about. You obviously believe that we create our own realities, and yet at the same time, you’re a professional intuitive. So if we’re making up our lives as we go along, why try to predict the future through psychic readings?
– Brian

Dear Brian:

I do believe that we are ever creating our own realities and experiences in life, and yet at the same time, I believe that there are some things that are “destined” to happen. In my view, these are things that we set in motion before we even incarnated on the planet. They are the really big, important things like meeting up with soul mates, giving birth to certain souls/children, perhaps choosing a particular life’s work, etc.

The rest of the details we are free to make up as we go along. Whether we began to create something before we were born or after we got here, however (and how do we understand time if it’s not linear anyway?) we are still the ones manifesting our experiences. Of course, when more people are involved, then we are co-creating our experiences with those other people. While this is trickier (and also more powerful) than creating something on our own, we still manifest those relationships based on our own energy.

We do most of this unconsciously, simply by offering a vibration and a focus of intention as Abraham (of Abraham-Hicks) puts it. How we feel, what we believe, what we think about, what we expect, what we focus upon: all of these energies go into the melding pot of our “vibration,” which determines our experiences.

Psychics are super sensitive people who are able to perceive or “read” subtle energies – like people’s vibrations. They are also adept at altering their state of consciousness to transcend the laws of space and time. By disassociating with the here and now, they are able to tune into the there and then. Psychics can thus tell us where we’re heading vibrationally. This is very helpful, for the earlier we catch something in the process of manifesting, the more power we’ll have to change it before it actually shows up in our outer experience.

Psychics can’t tell us what is definitely going to happen; they can only offer us what is probable given our current trajectory. The things we create in our lives are like rocks and boulders that we’ve set rolling down a mountain. A psychic can rise up high and look down on our lives and describe where various aspects of it are heading. She can describe what is directly ahead, what we’ll encounter next, what barriers need to be transcended and the best way to go around them, etc. She can also tell us about things we haven’t yet set in motion that we long for. She might say that if we take new action – throw a new rock of this size and weight in this particular direction – then that aspect of our lives will most likely end up right where we want it to be.

For example, let’s say we consciously want happiness in love, but the path we’re on right now is really rocky, and there is a huge cliff ahead. Further, let’s say our vibration is full of beliefs and expectations that are negative or otherwise limiting. A psychic can tell us that we’re not heading where we really want to go, and that there is “danger” ahead and we’d better change our course. She can also gently lead us to consciously recognize the beliefs, fears, etc. that are out of sync with true fulfillment. With this awareness we can then begin to heal old wounds and choose more empowering beliefs. This changes our vibration, which changes the course of our experience. In this way, we can begin to consciously align with what we want in our lives.

Psychics are thus helpful when we can’t figure out how to get from where we are to where we want to be – especially if we’ve gotten stuck in a negative pattern of experience and can’t find our way out. We all do this sometimes: we unconsciously manifest something that is not what we want, and that brings us down, which disconnects us from our personal power and lowers our vibration. Then we get on a downward spiral where things just get worse and worse. A psychic can help us halt that downward spiral and turn things around.

During a good psychic reading, you’ll be lifted up above the temporal dramas you’re dealing with and shown a higher perspective on your experiences, which will help you to let go of all the fear and resistance you’re carrying that is preventing you from creating something better. This is often a difficult thing to do. Our friends and loved ones, even if they can attain that higher perspective, often can’t get past our ego issues. Spirit, however, always knows how to touch our hearts and souls in order to lift us up to that higher perspective where we are free of all the limitations of our own fears, attachments and blind spots. When we’re in this uplifted, self-aware state, we can then consciously work with the law of attraction to create something better in our lives.

So a really good psychic will not only be able to tell you where you’re going as well as how to get to where you WANT to go, she will also be adept at helping you to reconnect with a high vibrational state so you can consciously manifest what you want with ease. This is why readings are referred to as “verbal healing” – they help us to realign with our own personal power, our highest and best selves, and thus boost our potential to live our best lives. You should leave a reading experience feeling totally transformed: hopeful, positive, empowered and excited about the future.

With all of this in mind, it makes sense that if a psychic gives you good news, it will underscore your positive beliefs and expectations, and thus help you to get what you want. When a psychic confirms that you’re heading in the right direction, you’ll naturally relax and bask in your knowing that what you want will be yours.

If a psychic tells you that you are not currently heading where you really want to go, try to give thanks, for your money has been well spent! You now have information you need to become more conscious about creating what you really want. Sure, you may have to do some inner work to shift your vibration into harmony with fulfillment, but that’s better than continuing on a path to somewhere you don’t really want to go.

In summary, we do create our own experiences in life. While nothing is set in stone, everything we experience begins in the non-physical, and thus it’s very helpful to be able to tune in to what is happening at that level and predict where we are heading. If we didn’t create our own realities – if everything was out of our hands or predestined – THEN consulting a psychic would be pointless. Thus it is our ability to create our own realities that makes psychic information so valuable.

– Soul Arcanum

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The Novel She Wrote Is Coming True in Real Life!

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I am writing a book on a relationship, and I have completed the manuscript. Something exciting is happening, and I don’t understand it: for the first time in my life, I am meeting people with the names of the characters I used in the book. I have been careful not use common names. Also, whenever I am watching TV shows or films, they seem to be somehow related to the theme I have written about, and they all point to my storyline and the characters in my book. This is so exciting and interesting, but sometimes I feel strange about the whole thing. Please tell me how I am supposed to interpret this. Am I manifesting this by focusing on my book and characters, or in writing the book, was I anticipating the future? Or is it just an unexplainable coincidence? (If it were one incident or if it was just one person, I would have accepted it as a coincidence). Please tell me what is happening to me!
Thanks and Regards!
– Muralidhar

Dear Muralidhar:

Wow! This strikes me as a very powerful demonstration of the law of attraction in action. When we write a book, we are basically creating a “world” in which its story is true. That “world” may not be physical in nature, but it exists on a mental plane. The same is true of all that we imagine and say. To put something in writing, however, is especially powerful, for in putting it down on paper (or even a computer screen), we begin to bring it into this dimension in a lasting form. No doubt you went back over the story again and again in editing it, so you have given a lot of energy to its creation.

We write a book or a story in the same way we create our own realities! Whatever we focus upon expands. Whatever we make a habit of thinking about becomes a habit of experience. This all reminds me of the tragic lesson that Christopher Reeves has demonstrated for us all. Remember, early in his career, Christopher Reeves was our Superman; he was as strong and virile as men get. Years later, in “Above Suspicion,” he played a man who had been paralyzed by a bullet wound to the spine, and was confined to a wheelchair. Just after that movie was released, he was paralyzed in real life by a spinal injury in a horseback riding accident, and has been confined to a wheelchair ever since. As soon as I heard about this, it hit me like a ton of bricks: he was so good at getting into character that he manifested the condition of his character in his reality.

Another interesting question came to me as I read about your experiences. Which comes first? For example, did you draw the names of those characters from the future, or are you now attracting them into your experience because you focused on them in the past? I believe there is a quantum level where cause and effect can no longer be discerned as separate entities. They are so interdependent that one can not exist without the other. What happens in the future depends on the past, but what happens in the past is also dependent on the future. (At this level, time is not linear.)

This idea was illustrated in the most recent Harry Potter movie (Prisoner of Azkaban). In the film, two characters travel back through time about a day, to try to change the future. When they arrive back in the past, they realize that they were THERE the first time events took place, for as soon as they made the decision to travel back, it had already happened that way. In reliving those experiences with the “hindsight” of the future, however, they were able to make better, more informed choices in order to create what they wanted from there on out. (It’s mind boggling to me, too!)

So what we can learn from the tragic story of Christopher Reeves, as well as your very interesting description of how your book is coming true in your life? Whatever we imagine ourselves to be with power and focus is what we will become, so it’s very important for all of us to write happy stories and play happy characters. This is true not just for the actors, writers, and artists of the world, but at a figurative level for all of humankind. We should tell others happy stories as well, instead of complaining about our problems. We should imagine happy endings instead of worrying. We should visualize ourselves as healthy, strong, joyful and prosperous.

We should choose what we watch or read with care. We should also choose whom we spend time with or listen to with care. In a nutshell, we should make sure our minds are ever focused on what we DO want, for clearly our imagination is powerful, and can be used to create health or handicaps, wealth or poverty, happiness or misery.

If there is anything in your book that you don’t want to see manifest in your experience, I encourage you to rewrite it with a happy ending. Imagine a powerful, uplifting happy ending, and spend some time focusing your (considerable!) creative power on that. You can leave the finished product as it is for publication, though I do encourage everyone reading this to think about what others are likely to manifest as a result of focusing on your words, whether they’re written or spoken. This goes for books, articles, letters and emails, as well as spoken words in speeches, meetings, lectures and even casual conversations.

While awareness of how incredibly powerful our minds are may be unnerving to those whose mental habits are undisciplined, we should all give thanks for demonstrations of the power of imagination. Just think: the same forces that allow our negative thoughts to wreak havoc in our lives can be consciously harnessed to fulfill our highest dreams. I think your book coming true in real life is wonderful! It affirms our Divine power to create our own experiences.

Thank you for sharing your amazing story with us all.

– Soul Arcanum

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The Power of Prayer

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I’ve read your articles on how to use creative visualization, the law of attraction, etc. to manifest what you want in your life. Do you believe in the power of prayer? If so, then can’t we just pray for what we want? Also, to whom would you pray? My mother prays to different saints and angels for various different matters. Does it matter whom we pray to?
– Elena

Dear Elena:

“I believe that divine help is always available, and that it’s our right to have that help. We are powerful beings, with a natural magic of our own, but others stand ready. Angels will come to assist you if you need them, but usually come only if invited.” – Jonathan Dickau

I absolutely believe in the power of prayer. We have the power in and of ourselves to work magic in our lives WHEN we are connected to the stream of pure, positive energy. When we’re caught up in problems or confusion, it’s hard get into that powerful state of connection. We all need a little help from our friends sometimes, and prayer is calling upon our friends in Spirit, whether those friends are our personal angels, archangels, guides or God.

I turn to prayer to connect to a very high spiritual vibration when working with clients, and in order to shed anger or other negative thoughts or emotions. I will pray to be cleansed of all negativity and to be filled with light and peace. In the course of “praying” like this, I will also visualize myself as I want to be. I will summon the emotions I associate with the state of consciousness I desire, and I will call upon “Spirit” to help me. I personally don’t call upon specific entities such as angels, archangels, saints, etc., for I trust that if I set a clear, positive intention, help will come to me in whatever way and from whatever source is for the highest and the best.

I recently had a wonderful little experience of the power of prayer. I was traveling to Florida with my parents, husband and children. I had my cell phone in it’s rugged holster, which was tightly clipped inside an outer pocket of my purse. While on the plane, I stowed my purse under the seat. When we got to Florida, we took a shuttle to the rental car agency. While waiting in the long line there, I suddenly had a “feeling,” and I began to look for my cell phone. It was gone. I knew it had been there when the plane took off, for I’d had to turn it off. This was a brand-new, expensive cell phone. I had spent hours learning how to use it and programming in all the phone numbers from my old phone. The clip on the holster is so tight that you have to pry it open to secure it onto something, so I couldn’t understand how it had come loose.

I tried to tune in to “feel” where it might be, but I was too upset to really connect. I wanted to race back to the terminal before the plane left again, but it took ages to rent the car. When we finally got back to the airport, there was a family in front of us with five children under the age of eight trying to check in. They had three car seats and a mountain of luggage like nothing I have ever seen before. My mood was growing darker by the minute.

When I finally spoke to the woman at the counter, our plane had left for Atlantic City. We knew that the plane would have been thoroughly searched, so she called the gate, and was told that no cell phones had been found. She took my contact information and said she’d call if anything turned up.

I left the airport in a foul mood. This was no way to start a vacation. My children opted to ride with my parents (can’t blame them there), so we took all the luggage, backpacks, etc. and moved them from their car into our backseat. My lucky husband had my grumpy presence all to himself for the forty minute drive to our destination. As I stared out the window, it suddenly hit me that sinking into depression over a phone was silly. It would only ruin the day for all of us, and more importantly, it would keep the phone from coming back to me. The more I wallowed in my LACK of my phone, the more lack of phone I would get.

Nevertheless, I couldn’t snap out of it, so I decided to pray. I silently said, “Okay, Spirit. I know I have a LOT of friends up there. I need your help. I really want my phone back, but I recognize that it is just stuff. I want to feel happy with all I am blessed with: a wonderful family on a wonderful day, beginning a wonderful vacation. Please purify my heart and mind and help me reconnect with joy. I choose joy regardless of whether or not I get the phone back, though it would be lovely if that could be arranged!” I then let it go. I trusted that all would work out for the best.

When we got to the hotel about fifteen minutes later, my little girl came to get her backpack out of our car while the grown-ups checked in. We then drove around to our entrance, and everyone piled out to load the luggage onto a dolly. In the two-minute drive from the office to the entrance, something had happened in their vehicle. My parents and kids emerged with strange smiles on their faces. My daughter came up to me grinning, and from behind her back produced – my cell phone in its holster! I was just astounded.

She said that she had found it clinging to the excess strap that dangled below her backpack. You would have had to have been there to fully comprehend how impossible this was. Even my usually skeptical father was stunned speechless. I then blurted out how I had been praying in the car, and this divine feeling washed over everyone. It was like supercharged goose pimples. (This is the mark of Spirit!) Suddenly, I was more joyful and grateful than I had been for months! No one could explain how my phone could have come unclipped from my purse and then clipped ON to her backpack, when I hadn’t even touched her backpack nor her my purse. Further, she had lugged the backpack all over the place, and my husband had tossed it from one car to another. If the phone been attached all along, it would have been flopping around near her knees as she walked through the airport, and either noticed or lost. While everyone tried to find a “rational” explanation, I knew that my prayer had been answered.

Whenever you’re feeling low, just pray. The more we “travel the pathway” from low to high vibration, the better our souls know the way there. Instead of viewing visualization and similar exercises as separate from prayer, incorporate those practices into your prayers. When we pray wisely, instead of “begging for help,” we work WITH Spirit to shift our own energy. This generates powerful magic!

Prayer is powerful. I have a friend who made more than a million dollars in her business last year. This was a goal she had set for herself, and at the time she set it, most people would have said she was “dreaming.” She says she did it almost entirely by going to work every morning, lighting a candle, writing down her prayers, putting them in an angel box to turn them over to her angels, and then just going home.

If you’re skeptical, I encourage you to try it for yourself. You’ve got nothing to lose, and your highest dreams to gain!

– Soul Arcanum

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Nasty Neighbor is Testing my Spiritual Character

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I consider myself to be a kind and compassionate person, and am generally tolerant of most people. My tolerance, however, has about run dry with my nasty neighbor next door. Without going through a litany of offenses, it takes every ounce of my being not to throttle her and/or perpetrate some delicious revenge for having to put up with her lack of decorum. Any time she’s nice, there’s always an ulterior motive. I know she’s a very troubled woman and has had a tough life. Her insecurity and self-hatred are painfully obvious. As a spiritual person, I try to be understanding and compassionate, knowing that deep down she’s miserable. I find it more and more difficult, however, to continue biting my tongue when I hear the dog endlessly barking, the trash piling up in her yard, and the unasked for advice on how to landscape my own yard. I’m planning on moving at some point, but until then, I’m stuck living next to her. What are some ways to put up with an obnoxious person who seems to test us at every turn? I’d love to launch her into the next solar system!
B.

Dear B.:

You’ve come to the right person, for I assure you that I too have had my own nemesis; I too have succumbed to anger and lost sight of my own spiritual values; I too have plotted wicked revenge. I have in fact amazed myself with my capacity for vengeance, and I now think the last person I’d want to have really mad at me would be ME.

I believe that you’re quite a bit like me, and what’s bothering you more than the neighbor herself is your own inability to remain “spiritual” in the midst of this conflict. If we are the sort of people who strive to do the right thing, to rise above ego to be kind, to give of ourselves in helping others, etc., it’s hard to accept and handle people who seem to be living at the other end of the spectrum, but it’s even harder to accept ourselves when we begin to sink to their level.

In our naivete, at first we may assume that our “enemies” couldn’t possibly know the harm they are inflicting, or else they’d change their behavior. When it becomes apparent that they just don’t care or are purposefully being negative or harmful, we sensitive souls can be shocked and disturbed. (As I was happily in denial myself for the first 30 years of my life or so, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but some people can be downright mean and nasty out of pure self-interest.)

It’s then further upsetting when we can’t seem to find a spiritual solution that works for everyone. Some people will try to use reason and persuasion to change the other person; others will pray or resort to spells or other efforts to affect the situation; some of us endlessly search for a “win/win” solution for everyone involved. If none of this seems to work, it’s easy to get caught up in confusion: Is the other person really wrong, or am I too sensitive and judgmental? Is this situation driven by my own bad karma? Am I to be a teacher here, or is the lesson for me? (And when did I become so ugly inside, anyway? Do my angels and guides know how wicked my thoughts can be? Gasp! Does GOD?)

As the Law of Attraction states that we draw people and experiences to us based on our own vibration, if we’re staring at something or someone really horrible, it’s natural to wonder if WE are horrible too. I don’t believe that all people and experiences in our lives reflect our own vibration – some are just secondary results of some primary manifestation. There are many ways/reasons such people may enter our experience. Sometimes the house we really want just happens to be next to theirs, as in your case. Sometimes we are related to such people, or were married to them in the past. Sometimes having a certain wonderful person in our lives means we have to deal with that person’s not so wonderful ex-wife, kids, spouse, etc. If someone irritating is in your experience, don’t assume you’ve done something wrong. If your inner world is festering with anger and revenge, however, the true “enemy” you’re battling is inside of you.

After much experimentation and frustration myself, I have learned that you can’t change a lion into a kitten, but you can either win the lion over or learn how to walk through the jungle without fear of attack. The lions are still there, but they’re no longer a threat to our well-being.

While enmeshed in my own similar lesson, I did at times lose my temper and engage in conflict, which of course only led to escalation. On the whole, however, when I began to “turn the other cheek,” to return mean acts with kind ones, things began to shift. They shifted even more when I realized how much inner time I’d started to devote to the situation, and decided that I needed to get a life again. (If you look back, you’ll realize you had a lot more important stuff going on in your mind and heart before this battle began.) When I stopped trying to force things to change because I had more important things to do, when I focused my mental and emotional energy on creating what I wanted in the rest of my life instead of pushing against the one thing I didn’t want, then the situation really relaxed and shifted. Before long, I was free from obsession, ugly thoughts and feelings. I still meet that lion now and then, and I still have to deal with the occasional drama, but it doesn’t pollute my soul anymore. In fact, much of the time the lion is downright friendly (though I’m not going to put my hand in its mouth or try to bring it home as a pet.) That is where you want to be.

I’m not saying you should be a doormat. I’m saying you should raise your vibration far above your neighbor’s, for then one way or another, she will fall out of your experience. So instead of focusing on getting rid of the neighbor problem, I recommend you focus on manifesting goodwill and harmony within you, regardless of what the neighbor does. This means that so long as you’re able to remain positive, you’re content. For every thing your neighbor does to disturb you, simply do something kind, either for her, yourself or someone else. Focus all your attention and energy on building big dreams and being the kind of person you most respect and admire. Look for people who are all the things you love: kind, polite, fun, respectful, courteous, etc.That is your challenge.

I know that my greatest “enemy” has been my greatest spiritual teacher. From that relationship I’ve learned the limits of my own compassion and tolerance, and I’ve stretched those limits. I’ve learned that even when we don’t understand others’ perspectives or opinions, that doesn’t mean we’re always right and they’re wrong. I’ve learned that even when I don’t like or trust someone, I can find the humanity in them, and I can continue to serve in many ways: by offering an example of someone who walks in Spirit; by overcoming my own ego and emotions to do the right thing; by remaining calm and speaking reasonably when others are yelling and angry. I’ve learned that the best way to “protect” myself is simply to focus on manifesting what I do want. The list is endless.

What I didn’t expect was to teach that person just as much as I learned. Recently she told me how much she has learned from how I’ve handled myself, and how much she admires and respects me. That was a great feeling.

Try to respond to your neighbor’s irritating issues with positive energy. You may just win her cooperation and admiration, but even if you don’t, you’ll have your soul back, and then what she does or doesn’t do won’t really matter to you anymore.

– Soul Arcanum

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Creative Visualization and the Law of Attraction

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Part I: Optimism and Pessimism

“Most people live, whether physically, intellectually or morally, in a very restricted circle of their potential being. They make use of a very small portion of their possible consciousness, and of their soul’s resources in general, much like a man who, out of his whole bodily organism, should get into a habit of using and moving only his little finger. Great emergencies and crises show us how much greater our vital resources are than we had supposed.” William James

Would you like to be able to create whatever you want in your life? Imagine for a moment that you have a magic genie in a bottle, or a magic potion or wand that, like some charming children’s movie, gives you the power to zap into being anything you wish. It also gives you the power, as so often happens in such movies, to “mess up” and create chaos and things you don’t want also. These whimsical movies reflect in a gross way the universal reality that our thoughts do create our experiences. That which we give our attention to, we attract. “Where thoughts go, energy flows.”

This means, of course, that optimists are confirmed in their optimism, and pessimists are confirmed in their habits of thought also. Optimists expect things to work out somehow, and because they give their attention to what they do want with expectancy, this is what manifests in their experience. Pessimists, on the other hand, generally also create what they habitually worry about. Of course, the Universe is a benevolent place, and everything does work out in the end. Often what this means, however, is that eventually, through difficult experiences, pessimists learn how to alter their expectations and beliefs to more deliberately create what they are wanting in life.

This dynamic is supported by quantum theory , which has shown that there is no such thing as an “objective” experience, even when supposed controls are applied. It’s been proven that the outcome of an experiment is influenced by the expectation of observers. There are no fixed laws, even when dealing with “physical” reality.

Part II: Thoughts are as Real as Actions and Things

Great men are they who see that spiritual is stronger than any material force, that thoughts rule the world. – Emerson

It is my understanding that everything we experience in “reality” has its beginnings in the non-physical. Every thought we think is a seed. Every time we think the same thought over again, we water that seed. When we think such a thought with emotion, we fertilize it. The more intense our desire or fear regarding such a thought, the more likely it is to come into our experience, and the faster it will manifest.

Thoughts are just as real as actions, but exist at a much higher and faster frequency. We may have a thought about wanting to kiss a companion, for example. This thought erupts from pure spirit or consciousness, like a spark. As we think it, it begins to slow, moving into the vibrational realm of feelings. We think the thought, then we have a feeling about it. We might feel excited or nervous. Depending on our feelings about it, we then have more thoughts and more feelings, while deciding what to do. As this process unfolds, the vibrations slow, and we eventually move into the realm of action (or no action, if that is the decided course of action). The same is true of things. We think of a butterfly, and eventually that thought slows until we experience/perceive/attract butterflies.

This can be compared to water, which at a high rate of vibration is steam, but which, as it cools, condenses into water, which we can perceive with our physical senses, and as it cools further, becomes apparently solid. Water is a great metaphor for all aspects of “physical” versus “non-physical.” It is difficult to communicate about anything spiritual or “psychic” without using the terms “physical” and “non-physical.” Here, “non-physical” refers to that which cannot be experienced through the five physical senses (sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell). The “physical” in this case represents that which is made manifest (appears to the senses) on this vibrational plane of reality. When we are alive, we are like water (or perhaps some of us are like ice) but when we pass into spirit, we become like steam. We may then re-emerge into the physical (reincarnate) through a slowing of our vibration into another physical incarnation.

There is only one main law that must mastered in order to create what we want in our lives. It sounds simple, but it requires extraordinary conscious awareness of our thoughts. Of course, the more conscious and deliberate we are in choosing our thoughts, the more we are able to focus our experiences in desired directions. This is generally referred to as the Law of Attraction. I’m indebted to the Abraham Hicks material for the expansion of my understanding of the law of attraction over the past few years, though I’ve found the same law and principles in diverse teachings.

(For further information, explore the works of Florence Scovel Shin, the six book series The Lives and Teachings of the Masters of the Far East by Spalding, Creative Visualization by Gawain, The Conversation with God books by Walsch, and quantum theory. If one pays attention, this same law or principle can be found in perhaps all spiritual or esoteric teachings, even the Bible and Eastern philosophies.)

Part III: How to Pray

“Ask and ye shall receive” is a truth. We ask with our desire, with what we give our attention to. Our thoughts and feelings are magnetic, drawing that which is focused upon into our lives. Jack may really want a particular job that would involve a promotion at work, for example. He may say to himself (or the Universe), “Oh, I would really love to have that job. I hope I get that job.” While he’s thinking this, he’s picturing himself in that position, happy, fulfilled. He’s imagining the new office, sitting at the new desk, performing the new tasks. This is a powerful way to create what he’s seeking. The Universe responds to his desire impersonally, for it’s not about whether or not he deserves it, it’s about what he’s in harmony with receiving. The All That Is of pure potentiality responds to the energy of him wanting that job, and being happy and fulfilled in that job. By visualizing himself in that job, he is already in the process of creating this in his experience. He has only to allow his thoughts and imaginings to filter down to manifest into the “reality” of this plane.

The specifics of the job are also not as important as the feeling state he is desiring to create in his life. In his visualization, he is bringing himself into harmony with the feeling state he desires. He achieves the feeling literally in the moment of visualization simply through picturing himself gaining what he desires, and feeling happy in that position. By becoming it in his fantasy, he is led to the creation of more of the same feeling state in the future.

By contrast, Joe may desire the same job and promotion. He may say to himself, “Oh, I really want that job, but I’m worried I won’t get it. It would be so great to get it (he sees himself in the job), and if I don’t get it, I don’t know what I’ll do (pictures himself depressed and worrying over a stack of unpaid bills). If Jack gets it, (pictures Jack in the job), I’ll be so mad! I’m way more qualified than he is. Those yahoos upstairs don’t appreciate all the energy I put into my work, and my experience and skills. (Pictures a superior or set of superiors at work with anger).

This creates conflicted energy. He both summons desire for the job, and resistance to not getting it. Therefore, he sends a small amount of energy toward getting the job, but more energy toward creating depression, stress over bills, and anger between himself and superiors at work. He also sends energy toward Jack getting the job instead. Joe focuses on feeling unappreciated, and is likely to attract experiences that confirm this expectation.

Some people naturally speak and think in ways that are effective, while others have a habit of thinking in ineffective ways. One can often detect how deliberate a creator someone is by the way they express themselves. For example:

  • “I hope the weather stays nice like this. It’s so beautiful out!” (This is effective for it leads to more beautiful weather) “I hope it doesn’t rain! That would be a bummer!” (This is ineffective, for it leads to rain and feelings that are not wanted.)
  • “I want to create harmony and happiness in this relationship. I know we can do it if we try.” (This is effective, for it leads to harmony, happiness and empowerment.)
  • “I don’t want to fight with you. I hate it when we fight. I can’t take this anymore, this has to change!” (This is ineffective, leading to more fighting and frustration.)
  • “I’ve decided to move to San Francisco. There are lots and lots of people who have done this. There must be an infinite number of options for how I can make this happen. Let’s see, I could…” (This is effective, leading to positive visualization and creative problem solving.)
  • “I wish I could move to move to San Francisco, but I hear it’s so expensive out there. The job market is tight, and a tiny apartment costs what a nice house costs here. And what about those earth quakes?” (Clearly, this is ineffective, unless one is trying to talk oneself out of it! This train of thought leads to negative, pessimistic feelings, and if the move is undertaken, undesirable experiences with finances and perhaps even earth quakes.)

In this last example, the effective person thinking or speaking has opened themselves not only to creative problem solving, but to the limitless resources of the Universe. Their thoughts are “in line” with their desires. The ineffective thinker, however, sends energy in direct opposition to what is expressed as desired. Note also the difference in feeling between saying, “I wish…,” which is weak and implies it’s unlikely to happen, and “I’ve decided.” Saying “I’ve decided” sets things strongly into motion.

This leads us to the most effective way to pray. Many of us are taught that “God” is an angry, “jealous” paternal being whom we must beg for favors, and who will grant them to us if we are “good.” While this may be true of some human folks (especially parents), God is not limited by the ego issues of “man.” When we pray in supplication, we come from a place of lack. What we really say when we pray, “Please, please, God, let me find the money to pay my rent” is “I don’t have the money! Help! I don’t have the money!” We tell the Universe we don’t have the money, and we get more of not having the money in our experience.

The Bible says we are made “in the image of God.” This means we too are creators. God gives us free will in how we choose to create. It is said that God helps those who help themselves. We must learn how to create what we desire by developing faith (applied optimism) and focused thought. The best way to pray then, is to visualize what we desire as already having happened, and to give thanks in our knowing that what we need and desire is already coming to us. To pray is to appreciate. It is to express an attitude of gratitude. The more we count our blessings, the more blessings come to us. The more we worry and pray for help due to some suffering, fear or lack, the more suffering, lack and fearful experiences we will draw to us.

Part IV: Becoming a More Deliberate Creator

The highest possible stage in moral culture is when we recognize that we ought to control our thoughts. – Charles Darwin

Following are some exercises or things to keep in mind as you begin to take more responsibility and control over what you attract into your life.

  • Pay attention to your fantasies. Daydreams (and night dreams) and the themes that run through our minds are like the trailers to movies. They show us what we’re in the process of manifesting. If we’re daydreaming about how we’re afraid we’re going to not make our sales quota, or how we may lose that important case in court, it’s time to shift gears and begin imagining ourselves creating what we do want. If we’re daydreaming about choking our neighbor because her dog barks all night long, and because when we request help with the matter she’s rude, it’s wise to know that we’re likely to experience more negativity from that neighbor, even if we’re polite on the surface. Thoughts are things!
  • Listen to yourself. Pay attention to your language. Especially watch yourself for phrases such as “I hope,” “I wish,” and “I’ve decided.” Also, watch for “buts.” The word “but” is used to contradict what was just expressed. Pay attention to how often you are talking about what you want, versus what you don’t want. Let go of what you don’t want, and shift to focusing on what you do.
  • Try starting small. Imagine a small thing that you’d like to come to you. You’re far less likely to have resistance to creating this in your experience, and your beliefs are likely to be less challenged by a smaller desire. As you get good at this, you can aim higher and higher, for your belief in your ability to create in your own experience will expand. You might try playing with this a bit by choosing something whimsical. Over the years, as I’ve played a lot with manifesting, I’ve had some funny and amazing experiences. A really enjoyable thing to try to manifest is friendly people. After a surprisingly negative experience with a Canadian customs official at the beginning of a trip, my girlfriend who is also a very conscious creator and I decided to manifest happy people from there on out. The two of us together created some intense synergy. The rest of our trip was almost like the Twilight Zone. People were literally hysterically friendly. Wherever we went, strangers joked with us, went out of their ways to help us, and practically rolled out red carpets. It was in no way subtle or mistakable. We found ourselves bursting out laughing time after time.
  • Try drawing a picture of what you’re wanting in your life. Really allow yourself to get into the flow of picturing yourself in the future with everything as you want it to be. Or you might try writing a story about how you got from where you now are to where you want to be, as if it’s already happened. The more you can suspend disbelief or resistance, the better. Writing and drawing allow us to get out of what is “practical” and dream our way into what we want. Remember that the potential is unlimited.

 

Your well-being does not come at the expense of others. Just as there is not a limited amount of “happiness” or “health” on the planet, there is no need to worry that you’ll attract more than your share of anything. Your being happy does not mean someone else must be depressed to balance things out. In fact, your being healthy, wealthy and wise makes it easier for others to follow in your footsteps.

It’s important to appreciate those things in our experiences that we don’t want, as well as the blessings we already have. Just as without darkness, we would not know light, so it is with contrast. When we experience something and we know we don’t like it, we suddenly know what we do want. Thank the contrast, and then pivot away from it with grace. Shoving away from it tends to ricochet us right back into it, for then we think of it with intense emotion. The more we can find peace with what we don’t want, the easier it is to flow with intense desire toward what is wanted.

Also, it’s good to embrace wanting. Desire is what keeps us alive. Without desire, we wouldn’t be here. It’s all about wanting to live, wanting to experience, wanting, wanting, wanting (not necessarily having, having, having!) Perhaps we’re very altruistic, and all we want to do is give, but this is still satisfying some desire in ourselves to give. I’m not saying we should do whatever we want without regard to others. I’m saying that if we are in harmony with our inner being’s desires, we will naturally want to do what is best for us, and this will naturally be what is also best for others. Sometimes, others may not see that at the time. We may want to end a relationship that another wants us to stay in. From a greater perspective, when we act in harmony with our own heart’s desire to move toward something else, we afford that other person the opportunity to work through their own fears and dependencies.

To want is a beautiful thing. It is wanting that birthed this world, and desire that draws us together to create new life, both physically and metaphysically.

One must not lose desires. They are mighty stimulants to creativeness, to love and to long life. – Alexander Bogomoletz

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