Can psychics remove negative energies that prevent us from having successful romantic relationships? I went to two different readers. One said I was unsuccessful in love because I have negativity around me, and for $250, she could give me something to carry with me for nine days, and then the negativity would be gone. The other said that for $250, she would light three candles and pray for three days for my romantic partner and me to heal our relationship. I didn’t pay either one for these services, but as my love life never improved, I wonder if I should have! Also, can psychics put bad energy spells on you if you don’t pay the $250? Blessings!
– Lynn
Dear Lynn:
First let’s address the idea that it’s possible to carry “negativity,” and for that energy to prevent us from manifesting fulfillment in our lives. This absolutely is true, especially when we define “negativity” as limiting beliefs and expectations. In order to manifest what we want in our lives, we have to believe it is possible and align with it energetically. If we want true love, but every time we think about this, we feel a pang of lack and longing, we will remain unfulfilled. By contrast, if thoughts of romance make us glow with anticipation and delight, then we will soon find our dreams coming true.
Can a third party help us to clear negativity? Yes! This is what happens when we go to an energy healer. A psychic would provide similar healing, only verbally. Many people believe that we have to actively participate in the prayer/healing process. I used to believe this myself, but numerous scientific experiments have demonstrated that prayer is powerful regardless of whether or not the recipients of those prayers are aware they are being prayed for. So having someone spiritually powerful pray for you may indeed prove beneficial. Of course, if it is possible for others to energetically help us without our conscious cooperation, then it is naive to assume that others can not hinder us the same way. This would mean that, superstitious as it sounds, we can be affected by other’s ill wishes.
This is not to suggest that being surrounded by “negativity” means you are “cursed.” It’s far more likely that limiting beliefs/ habits of thought are preventing fulfillment. These issues arise from the fears and wounds of past experiences, both in this life and in other lives. Just as a spiritual healer can help us to clear and release stagnant energies and raise our vibration, so psychics can help us to identify energetic blocks to a higher level of experience. Knowledge IS power. As a psychic helps you work through and heal the buried fears and issues that are holding you back, you are freed from them. In this way, intuitive counseling can help you rise above negativity to embrace greater happiness and fulfillment.
This is not where the particular psychics you consulted were coming from, however. As the whole point of a good psychic reading is to free you from the limitations that are keeping you from what you want in your life, sincere psychics would never charge you extra for this clearing work. They wouldn’t request huge sums for “magical” candles or talismans either. For more information on how to protect yourself as a consumer, please see the article I wrote on Psychic Scams in 1999.
In addition to all of the above, we must remember that we are each creating our own realities. Some of us are doing this more consciously than others. The more we consciously channel our own creative power, the more we will manifest what we desire. If you believe that having a psychic pray for you will change your life, then it probably will. Carrying a lucky talisman for nine days would work even better, because every time you looked at it or touched it, you would be reminded of the good fortune coming to you, and thus send energy to the manifestation of that good fortune. It’s not about the talisman, however – it’s about your focus and belief. If you believed that jumping up and down on one foot while singing “Mary Had a Little Lamb” would change your luck, that would probably work just as well.
While unconscious beliefs and outside influences absolutely CAN affect us, they can not supersede our own conscious will. If a young woman lacks a strong sense of self-worth and identity, it would be relatively easy for a man to influence her in order to take advantage of her. When he dumped her or she eventually broke free, she might find herself in another similar relationship. Would this be a result of “negativity,” or a lack of positively focused will?
To “protect” ourselves from outside influences, we have to take responsibility for creating our own realities. When we blame bad luck, energy blocks, or others for our problems, we give away our personal power to determine our own experiences. Though they may be suffering, the average person does not want the responsibility of creating their own reality, and they certainly don’t want to have to CHANGE in order to create something better. They’d actually rather pay a “psychic” for that person’s prayers or for a good luck charm. If the psychic sincerely knows how to heal with energy, it may work. Since most people don’t know how to consciously work with energy at this level, paying a psychic may be the best they can do.
Personally, I would rather learn how to do the spiritual work myself. It’s more powerful, reliable and a whole lot cheaper, so it’s of course what I recommend you do as well. Begin by living with awareness that to create what you want in your life, you must set your own clear tone. At the same time, affirm that at some level, you are aware of everything that is happening energetically. Your higher self knows when others wish you well or wish you ill, as well as the lessons you are here to learn and the limiting beliefs you have to heal in order to enjoy greater fulfillment.
Affirm that from here forward, your higher self will guide you toward the people and experiences that will carry you closer to fulfilling your dreams, and buffer you from all lower energies. For your part, to empower your higher self you must maintain a high vibration via faith/ positive thinking. Once you establish this relationship to life, you have only to relax, choose happy thoughts, and TRUST. Trust that everything that happens is carrying you closer to your dreams. Trust that the Universe and your higher self are ever at the helm, guiding you forward. Trust that your desires for love are actually your highest destiny beckoning to you. Remain very clear in your mind and heart about who you are, what you stand for, and where you are heading. Doing this will define your own tone and empower you to stay on course regardless of outside influences. For help with all of this, I encourage you to explore the powerful processes in Soul Arcanum’s Deep Trance Recordings.
As for whether or not ill-intentioned psychics can put a bad spell on you for not succumbing to their fear-based marketing tricks, that is certainly not something you want to give your attention to. Karma will take care of them, and if you focus only on the great good fortune on its way to you, that is all you will experience!
– Soul Arcanum