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Can Departed Toddler Come Back as New Baby?

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

Three months ago, we lost our beautiful, healthy, 23 month-old little girl, Jasmine. It was a very sudden and unexpected death from a rare respiratory disease. On the morning of January 13, we found her dead in her crib. She went from having a low grade fever and strep throat infection to dead within 12 hours. I have two questions: During the night of her death, I had a dream about my husband and me. We were standing in the doorway of an emergency room, looking over a team of doctors and nurses working on a patient. All I could see were little feet. I didn’t feel panicked or afraid. The next morning when we found Jazzie unresponsive, I called 911 while my husband performed CPR to no avail. At the hospital while my husband and I were standing in the doorframe, watching over the crew trying to reanimate our baby, I remembered my dream. It was exactly the same – even my outfit was identical. Also, my husband told me he had a dream of hearing Jazzie breathing like a dying animal. Our bedroom is far from Jasmine’s and both doors were shut. Do you have an explanation? Finally, I am wondering about reincarnation. If we pray, ask and plea, can she come back to us as another child? Her four-year-old sister, Sofia, is missing her so much; they are best friends. She says she sees Jasmine at night before falling asleep and she also sees her in the car, sitting next to her. Jasmine was such a wonderful child and so full of life. We are hoping that she will come back to us in our next baby. Thank you in advance for your response.

Nathalie

Dear Nathalie:

My heart goes out to you; I can’t imagine the grief you are going through. Hopefully my response will bring you comfort and ease your suffering, for I believe that what you desire is not only possible but happens all the time.

First let’s address your dreams. I see two possible explanations, either of which could apply to either dream. One possibility is that these were warning dreams that something was wrong. This interpretation best suits your husband’s dream, which may have been trying to tell him what was happening with Jazzie at that moment.

Your dream was more premonitory. Usually dreams about upcoming tragedies are designed to help us through subsequent events. They prepare us by allowing us to emotionally experience a devastating situation in a state of mind that is detached from the experience, and they bring us comfort afterwards by providing evidence that there is a higher plan at work. (If we experience something before it actually happens, we must suppose that it was meant to happen.)

Now let’s turn to your desire for your daughter to be reborn to you as a new baby. First, it helps to know that there is ample evidence in support of reincarnation. Perhaps the most famous is the work of Dr. Ian Stevenson, whose books describe his in depth research with children who remember all sorts of verifiable details from former lives. Even more convincing are the physical similarities between these children and the people they claim to have been in a prior life. For example, in 35 percent of his cases, Dr. Stevenson found the children had birth marks or birth defects that matched wounds from prior lives.

As the evidence for reincarnation is there for whoever wishes to explore it, let’s move forward. First I’d like to counter your question with one of my own: If we all live many lives, why wouldn’t we be able to return to the same parents in the scenario you describe? As for why a soul would choose to die young only to return to the same family, this may be done to achieve two goals: so the family will be blessed with the spiritual growth experience of such a loss, and so the soul can then come back and live out the life that was cut short.

This brings me to some books by Carol Bowman I think you’ll find most interesting: Children’s Past Lives and Return from Heaven: Beloved Relatives Reincarnated Within Your Family offer some case studies of just what you’re hoping for. Of course, it can be tricky to determine if a child is the reincarnation of someone formerly known. As mentioned above, one way is to look for distinguishing marks and features beyond what one would expect from genetics. Another is to ponder the child’s quirks, passions and phobias. Perhaps the only way to be sure is to have the child relay memories that are evidential of their former identity.

These usually come to light when children are just old enough to form complete sentences. At that time, they may say things like, “When I was here before…” or “When I was a man (woman, soldier, etc.)…” They may ask about someone you’ve never heard of or possessions they’ve never had by saying things like, “Where’s my rifle?” or “Where’s my other mother?” This information is usually communicated in a very matter of fact way, and the details remain consistent over time. These children often use words that are beyond their years or talk about things they’ve had no exposure to yet.

Your first step is to consciously communicate with your daughter’s spirit and ask her if she would like to return to you as a new baby. There are many ways to go about this; you might do it via meditation or by inviting her into your dreams. Since every situation is as unique as the individuals involved, it’s best to pray for Spirit to guide you in achieving this aim. It may help to research pre-birth communication, in which the spirit of an as yet unborn child communicates with his or her mother. This can occur before conception; in fact, my daughter came to me as a spirit before I’d ever thought about having another child and told me that it was time for her to be conceived.

Life between life research indicates that most of the time, we are free to choose when and where we reincarnate. Since we all carry karma that must be resolved and desires yet to be fulfilled from previous lives, we tend to return to the same families. As most people live many decadies, this is usually as a member of a future generation, but there are many cases where children died young and returned to the same mother. Since I know you need all the reassurance you can get, I’ve dug up a couple of quotes from experts:

A soul who agrees to take the body of a baby who dies at a very young age can reincarnate again very quickly, and it would have been agreed beforehand…so if the first life is to teach other souls a life lesson, then the second life may be agreed at the same time…When babies die very young, the soul can reincarnate in the same family or nearby. – Ian Lawton, from The Wisdom of the Soul: Profound Insights from the Life Between Lives

When a mother loses her child for whatever reason, I have found the odds are quite high that the soul of this baby will return again to the same mother with her next child. – Michael Newton, Ph.D., from Destiny of Souls

I do want to point out that any child born to you would have a deep soul connection to you and therefore be just as precious to your heart as Jasmine was. Whether Jasmine returns as your child or your relationship with her takes some other form, you can count on the fact that you will find each other again. If your daughter does come back to you as a new baby or in some other relationship, please let us know; I’m sure many people would find hope and comfort in your story.

Soul Arcanum

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Pregnancy and Spiritual Awakening

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

I’ve read that when your first child was born, you were launched on a spiritual journey. I’m very curious about this. Would you mind sharing what it was about this child or about the birth process that led to awakening? I’m beginning training as a doula, and I’m excited to participate in the amazing changes that childbearing can bring. I would like to address this experience in my capacity as a childbirth educator. Many thanks!
– Kathe

Dear Kathe:

First I want to explain that everyone is in the process of spiritual awakening; most of us are just going about it so gradually that we don’t really notice it. To awaken spiritually is really just to expand in consciousness, which is a natural product of experience.

There are turning points, however, when we wake up to the truth that there is far more to life than what can be perceived with the five physical senses. This generally involves territory that we consider to be overtly “spiritual” in nature, such as having psychic experiences or being able to consciously manifest what we want in our lives. It is at this point that I think most people use the term spiritual awakening.

As this is such a profound transformational shift, it’s natural for it to affect a person on every level, and to change the very way they look at life or the nature of reality. This process can feel very messy, uncomfortable and out of control, but it can also feel fascinating and exciting.

We all go through natural growth cycles, and some even go so far as to say that these cycles last about seven years. (It’s interesting to note that this is also the amount of time that doctors say it takes for us to replace every cell in our bodies with new cells – so we literally become a new person every seven years.)

At the end of each cycle, we tend to grow restless and dissatisfied, which creates the desire to explore something new. We then go in search of whatever may be missing in our lives, choose what resonates with us, and devote ourselves to it. With time, we master it and may even teach it to others. Then it becomes so familiar that it no longer thrills us the way it used to, and before long, we’re restless again. At the beginning of each cycle of spiritual development, we awaken to new realizations, new possibilities, and new personal abilities.

This is the path of someone who gradually grows more interested in spiritual matters and begins to read books, take classes, and try things like meditation or yoga. These explorations then lead to other new interests or higher levels of practice and gradual spiritual growth. It’s a bit like awakening slowly on a weekend morning, remembering where you are, what happened yesterday, and what you are going to do today.

By contrast, a sudden awakening is like being startled by a thundering crash in the middle of the night, not knowing what’s happening, if you’re safe (and sane) or not, and what you should do next.

There are many things that can suddenly wake people up. Any sort of intense stress or loss can spark a spiritual awakening, including physical abuse or other trauma, childbirth, a near death experience, etc. The stress doesn’t have to be physical, however; often it’s a divorce, the death of a loved one, or a major career or business failure that launches an awakening.

Of course, not everyone who gives birth awakens, nor does everyone who goes through a divorce. It depends on how ready you are to wake up and how far beyond your comfort zone you are pushed. When our egos are stripped of their illusions of control and begin to crack under the strain of whatever is happening, that’s when divine light begins to pour in.

As for why pregnancy is so often a time of awakening for women, I have a few theories. First, pregnancy can be a very stressful, anxious time for many women, especially first-time mothers. Personally, I have never felt more vulnerable or out of control than when I was pregnant. Knowing that you have no choice but to surrender to pregnancy and childbirth could prove very unsettling for anyone with control issues.

Pregnant women are also literally channels to the spirit world, as they are bringing souls through to this world from the other side. This opens something of a portal to all sorts of intuitions and other spiritual phenomena, which can blow a woman’s mind open to all kinds of new possibilities.

Also, when a woman is carrying a highly spiritual child, it’s natural for the child to influence her own vibration. This is sort of like being in the presence of a guru non-stop for nine months. While I believe that most children have higher vibrations than their parents because we are all evolving, if a woman is carrying a very psychic or spiritual child, odds are good that at least during the pregnancy, her own vibration will rise, her psychic abilities will suddenly kick in, etc. This is largely what I attribute my own awakening to.

Pregnancy is also a time when many women cultivate a deeper sense of peace and love. They may take better care of themselves than ever before, and slow down to just “be” for the first time in their lives. They may begin to ponder life and where we all come from as they never have before. They may also feel very happy and grateful for the child they’ve conceived, and all of these will raise a woman’s vibration, which will naturally lead to higher spiritual experiences.

This brings me to the greatest reason I believe that pregnant women often experience spiritual awakening or the sudden development of new psychic powers. Pregnancy is one of the only times women have both a very high vibration and a very strong connection to a soul in the spirit world. Because their vibration is high, many pregnant women are able to consciously perceive signs and messages from the spirit of their unborn baby.

There are only a few times when spirits in the afterlife are super motivated to get through to us: when we’re in grave danger, when they’ve just crossed over, and just before they are to be born. When we’re in danger, much depends on how receptive we are. Often spirits are successful in warning us at such times simply because they try so very hard.

When they’ve just died, our vibration is usually very low with grief, so we can’t connect with them consciously even though they may be trying very hard to comfort us.

Just before a loved one in Spirit is to be born, however, our vibration is generally very high, which is ideal for spirit contact. Thus many women experience signs, messages, dreams, intuitions, etc., from the spirits of the babies they are carrying.

This is actually quite common, and much has been written about it. For more information, you might begin by exploring the work of Elisabeth Hallet at www.light-hearts.com. I also recommend Carol Bowman’s research.

May the love and care you give to new mothers and babies bring you many blessings!

– Soul Arcanum

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Making Peace with Abortion

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

Last year I had an abortion when I was about eight weeks pregnant. (I felt very drawn to the father, but we were only together for a short time.) Now I feel like I sent the most miraculous thing out of my life. I have had moments of despondency and depression over this. I still seem to have some kind of emotional disconnect about the whole thing, as if I was never really pregnant at all. I’m not against abortion totally, but I can’t help feeling I made the Biggest Mistake of my Life. I’m so disappointed in myself. This would have been my first child. Does this fact alone give me horrible karma for my future? I feel like God gave me a great responsibility and a wonderful chance by allowing this to happen, but I totally dropped the ball. How do I begin to deal with this?
– Elena

Dear Elena:

Instinctively we all know that life is a sacred gift, and that perhaps the worst thing we can do is take another’s life. I want to assure you, however, that from the perspective of Spirit, your decision is not unforgivable. As I see it, there are two key issues that are often overlooked or misunderstood when it comes to the subject of abortion, and exploring them will hopefully lead you to peace and healing.

The first issue is the obvious fact that it is reprehensible to bring a child into this world when you know you are unwilling or unable to care for that child in a responsible, loving way, or to ensure that someone else does. I once dated a man whose job was to investigate child abuse cases and remove children from abusive or neglectful homes. Though I truly believe that each one of us incarnates with certain spiritual lessons to learn, it still broke my heart to be so frequently reminded that there are many vulnerable little people in the world who are suffering from the resentment or neglect of parents who are incapable of meeting their children’s physical and emotional needs.

Second, if we accept the reality of reincarnation, we naturally view matters of “life and death” in a whole new light. This perspective is foreign to most Christians and Westerners, however, so even if one is open to the idea, our culturally driven assumptions about life and death tend to color our feelings about subjects like abortion.

If we remember that we get many opportunities to incarnate, and that any soul who “loses” such an opportunity at one point can always inhabit a different body at a later date, all sorts of controversial subjects such as abortion and euthanasia take on new dimensions.

Via my own personal experiences, my spirit communication work and my extensive spiritual studies, I have learned that whether we miscarry or choose to abort a child, it is pretty much the same to the spirit incarnating: it will simply move on and incarnate in some other form later.

As for the controversy over when life “officially” begins, we can learn a great deal from spiritual sources. For example, during my second pregnancy I was psychically awake and aware that my daughter was not in my womb – she was “outside” of me (and communicating with me telepathically), and didn’t enter her body until quickening. In fact, she began to communicate with me in the form of a disembodied spirit before she was even conceived – she was the one who informed me that it was high time I had another baby.

All the spiritual research I’ve read echoes my own experiences. For example, people who have had near death experiences generally report that the soul may enter the fetus at any time between the second trimester and the hours just following birth. Sometimes near death experiences are brought on by abortion, and in these accounts, the women report no sense of condemnation for their decision to abort; instead, they find compassion and understanding for them in Spirit.

The great mystic Edgar Cayce also believed that the soul does not enter the fetus during the first trimester of pregnancy, but may “move in” any time between the end of that period and the hours following birth. Souls may “hang around” a potential mother for some time, trying to decide if they will go through with this particular incarnation, or “getting used to the idea” while bonding with the family. This was also similar to my experience, for even after quickening when I sometimes felt my daughter was in her body in my womb, I often experienced her outside of it again, as though she could come and go as desired.

In Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls, hypnotherapist Michael Newton, Ph.D., explores what he learned about the nature of life and death when he regressed dozens of patients to the period between their incarnations in the physical. As he explains in Destiny of Souls, he has never seen a single case in which the soul joined the fetus in the first trimester. Here’s what his research revealed about unborn babies:

“There is a universal consciousness of love surrounding all unborn babies. The creative force of existence is never separated from any form of living energy. A fetus can be alive as an individual entity without yet having an immortal soul identity. If a mother aborts her child in the first trimester, there are loving spiritual forces hovering nearby to comfort this mother and watch over the child…Souls know in advance the probabilities of the baby going to term…When a mother loses her child for whatever reason, I have found the odds are quite high that the soul of this baby will return again to the same mother with her next child. If this mother does not bear another child, the soul may return to another close member of the family because that was the original intent…”

This idea is echoed in the work of Carol Bowman, author of Children’s Past Lives and Return from Heaven: Beloved Relatives Reincarnated within your Family. For more information on Carol’s fascinating work, please visit her website, www.childpastlives.org.

So my friend, odds are good that if a soul had already chosen you to be its mother when you aborted, that same soul will return to you when you are truly ready to become a parent. I have personally performed a number of readings in which this was the case.

None of this is meant to suggest that we should be casual about abortion. Certainly it ridiculous to use abortion as a form of birth control. In my view, however, the true problem is our culture’s casual attitude toward sex. As I often tell my children, it is foolish to have sex with someone you would never want to have a child with. The spiritual lesson in the abortion experience is often one related to adopting a more conscious, sacred approach to sex.

As with all big spiritual decisions, our intentions are paramount. When I ask Spirit how to determine the “right” way to deal with an unwanted pregnancy, I hear that each woman must balance love for herself, respect for life and her Creator, and care for the unborn child. This is not the sort of decision that can be made for her by strangers; it is as personal a decision as the spiritual path she chooses to follow and her relationship with the Divine. She must therefore defer to the ultimate authority on such matters: the voice of God that whispers to her in her own heart.

I pray that you will see that in beating yourself up so, you are doing more harm to your own spirit than you did to any other spirit involved in this experience. You too are a child of God, my friend. The only being in the Universe who hasn’t already forgiven you is YOU.

– Soul Arcanum

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