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When Intuitive Answers Don’t Make Sense


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Dear Soul Arcanum:

Have you ever experienced a manifestation of intuition that ran counter to other things you’d learned? If so, how did you work through that? I do healing work and I have a client who on the surface appears to need a specific homeopathic remedy. However, when I took her on a guided meditation, she brought up a different remedy. She described it perfectly, to the point of even saying that what she needed from it is in its roots. (This medicine does happen to be made from the roots of a specific plant!) I consulted with another provider, and that healer thinks I should give her the remedy that she appears to need and dismiss what she said in the meditation. Now I’m in a quandary, for I can’t tell if I’m just being stubborn and wanting to do this my way. Should I trust that what she found for herself during the meditation is what she needs right now? Have you had similar experiences in your psychic work?

Val

Dear Val:

Though homeopathy is an alternative healing approach, it’s not so much an intuitive art as it is a traditional science. Like allopathic doctors, homeopaths dialogue with patients about the symptoms that have led them to seek help, and from this information they logically deduce which remedies are needed. It crosses from traditional medicine into the psychic realm in the notion that by taking a homeopathic remedy, one communicates with the body that there is a problem that needs to be addressed and trusts the body to then do whatever is needed to return to balance. If you’re going to trust the bodies of your patients to heal themselves, it would also be wise to trust your patients to know what they need in order to heal.

While patients seek help because they don’t know what else to do, you did something to empower your patient to get in touch with her own inner wisdom: you took her on a guided meditation. In combining the science of homeopathy with this intuitive approach, you moved into a gray area where you must now decide what you’re going to put greater faith in: the general knowledge you’ve been taught or the personal wisdom of the person you’re trying to help.

As a hypnotherapist, I’m inclined to trust the wisdom of the person I’m working with above all, for I believe we do know what we really need – we just may not be able to access that awareness consciously. I never presume to know more about someone than they do. In fact, one of the most fascinating aspects of my work as a hypnotherapist is watching my clients’ subconscious minds come up with insights and remedies far better for them than anything I might have conjured up.

This attitude may seem antithetical to the whole notion of psychic reading work, but even in that arena, I always tell my clients to listen to their own inner guidance above all and disregard anything that doesn’t ring true to them. I also tell them to watch for strong feelings that certain psychic insights are really “on” as signs that their own inner knowing is confirming what they already knew on a deep level but were not yet consciously aware of.

Here’s my point: whether we are healers of the body or soul, the people we are healing are always the ultimate authorities on themselves. The job of a healer is not to tell or give people what they need, but to help them shift toward greater conscious awareness of their true issues and reconnect with their own power to create what they want in their lives.

People generally seek alternative healing methods when they’ve tried mainstream approaches without success. For the most part, this means that whatever is going on is not something that can be deduced in ordinary ways. For example, many people turn to hypnotherapy when doctors tell them that they can find no physical cause for their pain or no real cure for their emotional issues aside from medication.

There is always a reason why people feel the way they do, but if a particular patient is anything but typical, a typical approach will tend to fail. When we bypass learned knowledge and ordinary cognition to access the deeper wisdom of the intuition and/or the subconscious mind, amazing insights come to light. The whole power in working psychically is to get more accurate information than can be obtained via traditional or learned methods.

One reason intuitive processes succeed where traditional methods fail is because they are perfectly suited to the individual. Instead of dealing with general knowledge to try to deduce what is going on, intuition connects us with what is actually happening for that person. This is like the difference between trying to interpret a dream for someone based on what you’ve learned about dream symbols versus working with that person’s own subconscious mind to determine what the dream means for them.

You asked if I’ve experienced the dilemma of having psychic impressions make no rational sense in my work. This happens all the time! In fact, most psychics will tell you that it’s the details that make no sense or seem totally random that often prove to be the most powerful in a reading. Our rational minds are constantly sorting, editing, censoring and reformulating the intuitive impressions we receive. When we don’t outright reject intuitive insights, they tend to end up diluted or distorted to some degree. This is what your rational mind is doing right now: it’s trying to weigh learned information against intuitive insights to determine how to proceed.

I have nothing against the rational mind; in fact, we need all the faculties we’ve been blessed with to function at our best. However, in my experience, it is wise to pay special attention to insights that seem to strike out of the blue. If this patient had little knowledge of homeopathic remedies and could not have come up with the information she relayed on her own, one has to wonder where that information came from.

As an intuitive counselor, one of my most important jobs is to teach people to trust themselves and their own inner guidance, for this is the only way to find what we personally need to feel balanced and fulfilled. In health matters especially, we’ve all been taught to trust doctors and other healers more than we trust our own bodies and inner guidance. If you disregard the answer this woman’s inner knowing provided when asked, I imagine it will have a detrimental effect on her relationship to herself and her power to heal her life.

I think it’s great that you took this patient into a deep trance, asked what was needed, and got a clear answer. By altering our state of consciousness via a guided meditation, deep trance or dream, we can communicate with the wisdom of the body, the subconscious mind and the higher self. In fact, I think this would be a smart thing for you to do in order to weigh your learned knowledge against what your intuition may tell you about the individuals you work with.

If you have trouble psychically accessing information in this way, there are methods you can employ to quickly get intuitive confirmation. For example, kinesiology testing would be a very fast and effective way for you to determine what to do in this and other situations. Have your patient hold the remedy you think she needs in one hand while you test the strength of the other arm, and then have her hold the remedy she came up with and see which one makes her stronger. By regularly testing the remedies that ‘seem’ to be needed in this way, you can infuse your healing work with the power of your patients’ own innate wisdom.

Soul Arcanum


She’s Weary of Her Spiritual Mentor

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Dear Soul Arcanum:

Lately I have felt stagnant in my spiritual growth and practices. I had a friend that was kind of like a mentor to me, but within the past six months, I have grown very tired of her and weary of anyone trying to “mentor” me. Am I being stubborn, going through my own growing pains, or is it something else?
– Jennifer

Dear Jennifer:

I do feel you are being stubborn – not because you are resistant to others’ guidance, but because you are resistant to letting go of relationships you have outgrown.

As we grow and evolve, we are led to the people and experiences that can help us learn what we need to learn next or become what we want to become. When we first discover those people or experiences, we feel strongly attracted to them. This is our inner guidance telling us that we’ve found what we’ve been looking for. Our feelings of interest and excitement are signs from our inner compass that we should go in this direction. This is why it is wise to “follow our bliss.”

As time goes on, that which once was blissful and exciting naturally loses some of its shine. Challenges arise. Now we’ll either move beyond the surface to deeper levels of understanding, or lose interest and move on. This holds true both for new teachings/practices and for new relationships.

Think about it: when we first make a new friend or start dating a new lover, that person seems wonderful and fascinating. After a while we get beneath the surface, however, where things are more complicated. In addition to all the good things that first attracted us, we discover new stuff that we struggle to understand. We may not be sure what to think of it, and spend a good amount of time really weighing it out. That “struggle” is at the heart of personal growth.

If we hang in there, over time we learn how to work it all out: how to be patient and understanding with these new issues and push through the rough spots. If this relationship or practice really works for us, we may stick with it indefinitely and make it our own. If it continues to bring us joy and blessings, that will be easy. If it brings new lessons and challenges, we’ll be motivated to keep it alive – at least as long as our desire for growth outweighs our fears and insecurities.

If, however, we discover that there isn’t much for us to chew on beneath that surface, we’ll start to experience feelings of stagnation, boredom, frustration, etc. These are signs that we have outgrown the relationship or situation.

As we are always looking for “the answer,” “the key,” or “the one,” when we find something or someone that feels like it might be it, we tend to grab it with both hands and refuse to let go. We want it to be all we have been looking for, so we define it as such. Then later when we’ve outgrown it, if we fail to redefine it in light of all we’ve learned, we may feel confused because it doesn’t “do it” for us anymore.

Just because a certain person, practice, course of study, etc., is what we most need at one time, that doesn’t mean it will always be what we need. Even something of great power can become a hindrance if we cling to it too long. We can no more force ourselves to stay in relationships or situations that we’ve outgrown than we can force ourselves to wear the same pants we adored when we were six years old. Over time, they will become more and more uncomfortable until we finally discard them for something that fits better.

This is a natural process. It doesn’t mean we’re missing something, failing to appreciate our blessings or resisting our lessons. If you felt angry, inadequate, overwhelmed or challenged, I’d recommend you look within for how you may be resisting the wisdom and experience this teacher may have to offer, especially if you admire her and would like to become more like her.

By contrast, boredom, weariness and indifference are signs that it is time to move on. When we find ourselves saying, “I’m so tired of” this or that, or “This is getting really ‘old,'” it’s time to ask ourselves why we’re still in that situation. Usually, it’s because despite our lack of interest, we’re still living according to that obsolete definition, which keeps us hanging on.

To get unstuck, you just need to update your mental files and redefine this teacher’s role in your life in light of where you are NOW. It doesn’t really matter what you once got out of this relationship; what matters is how well it fits who you have become and where you want to go in your life from here.

While it’s wonderful to be grateful to everyone who blesses us with new wisdom and experiences, gratitude is not the same as obligation. Let go of any guilt you’re feeling about wanting to move on so you can celebrate how far you’ve come!

Now, this teacher aside, everyone on a conscious spiritual path at some point grows weary of others trying to mentor them. This is a very important turning point. I feel your inner being is telling you that you don’t need to be led by anyone outside of yourself anymore. Your next step on your spiritual journey will involve you developing your own conscious connection to Spirit and listening within for your own answers. You may still take classes or read books, but instead of assuming these writers and teachers know more than you do, you will weigh all input against your own inner wisdom.

You’re very wise to be questioning yourself. That means you have developed the ability to rise above your ego for higher awareness. It’s ironic: the more we can ask ourselves if we are just being “stubborn” due to ego issues, the less likely it is that this is true. Since you’re able to question your reaction objectively, I feel that you need to trust your feelings and honor them by doing what does feel right and best.

None of this means that you’ve learned everything there is to learn! It means now you have learned enough to dig in to a new level of experience, to apply what you’ve been taught and make some new discoveries of your own. This is very exciting.

It can be unnerving to begin to forge our own spiritual trail. It’s sort of like moving from a reader of great books to a writer of great books, or like moving from a child to an adult. Instead of trusting others to take care of us, guide us, and have all the answers, now we have to figure things out for ourselves.

Nevertheless, just as a child grows and realizes that her parents are not all-powerful and do not have all the answers, at some point in our spiritual journeys, we also realize that our gurus are not gods, and there is no one person out there with all the answers we’ve been seeking. While we can still learn from others, we realize that no one is a greater authority on our own spiritual truth than we are. No one else can direct us on our spiritual journeys better than we can ourselves by listening within for guidance and answers.

So when friends, jobs, teachers, etc. grow weary for you, ask yourself why you’re still there. Odds are good it is because you just haven’t updated your mental files on this situation in light of what you’ve learned and who and where you are now, or you’ve grown accustomed to being led and are reluctant to forge your own trail.

Whenever you feel stuck, call to mind the things in your life that you’re weary of, and for a moment, ponder how they are just one tiny possibility in an infinite sea of potential. Think of how many spiritual teachers there are! Contemplate how many friends, lovers, jobs, books, ideas, etc., you’ve yet to encounter. Let the immensity of all that potential stir your soul and draw you out of what has been into all that could be. If you listen to your weariness, it will eventually guide you into exciting new beginnings and discoveries.

– Soul Arcanum