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Dear Soul Arcanum:

A theoretical question: when reading a woman’s cards, they showed the husband having a mistress. As I was mentally noting this, the wife boldly stated, “At least I know he’s not cheating on me.” She actually said that several times. I was then stumped – should I tell her what I saw or not? I chose not to. Instead, I told her that there were some secrets around her, and she needed to be vigilant to see and hear the information. Was I wrong to not tell her what I felt was the truth? Do we create karmic debt by not disclosing what we fear will cause someone emotional harm?

S.

Dear S.:

It sounds to me like she was intuitively aware of what you were thinking and seeing in the cards, and she said what she did in order to block that information from being directly communicated in the reading.

I think you did a great job of handling the situation. You could have said, “It sounds like that is something that would greatly upset you. Is that something you’ve been concerned about?” Or, “If your husband WERE cheating on you, would you want to know?” If her reply was yes, you could have then have admitted that the reason you asked was because of what you’d seen and explore that further in the reading. If she said no for some reason, then what you did say was perfect.

Your question raises how important it is to have a clear channel to Spirit in addition to being able to read the cards, for then you can always ask what to do regarding whatever comes up. It’s also wise to establish “agreements” with Spirit regarding the support we desire to receive. For example, I have an agreement with Spirit to only send me people who are ready to hear the truth and who will be truly helped by getting a reading with me.

It’s also wise to set a clear foundation for reach reading. For example, I encourage people to embrace and work with whatever resonates with them in a reading, and to put to the rest on a shelf to reflect back upon from the greater perspective of hindsight. It’s also important to set the ground rules before you begin. I have had many people write me over the years with questions like this: Soul Arcanum! Please help me, I am desperate! I have had three other psychic readings. The first two psychics told me that my boyfriend and I are going to get married. The third told me that she sees us breaking up. I’m desperate to know if we will get married because I can’t imagine being happy with anyone but him! Please tell me that we will be together forever!

It may sound like I’m exaggerating, but I assure you that I do get emails just like this. I always respond that any reading I do on the matter will be fresh and not a piggyback of another psychic’s work. I also am very firm in communicating that if that person is determined to be told what they want to hear, then I am not the reader for them. Sometimes I’m able to talk the individual around to trusting that whatever Spirit answers will prove to be for the best; sometimes people just can’t let go of what they think they must have to be open to whatever the truth may be, in which case I refuse to read for them.

Of course, sometimes resistance comes up out of the blue, as with the situation you describe. A question is asked and the answer is clearly not what the client is hoping to hear. Since readings are always about matters that are deeply important to people, it’s important to handle those situations very carefully.

Whenever I get something that could be upsetting, I always ask Spirit to help me to communicate it in a way that my client will be able to accept it and work with it to create what they really want in their lives. I also take a breath and say a little prayer to get the energy back on track and reestablish rapport. When I remind clients that my greatest wish is their happiness and well-being, and that the goal of the reading is to empower them to find true happiness and fulfillment, they usually let go of their fear of not getting what they think they want and relax and open up again.

Once you have established a strong relationship with Spirit and are able to ask what to do in any situation, it’s imperative that you trust the guidance you receive. I recently did a reading for a man who was going into business with a partner. Much to my surprise, Spirit showed me images of goods coming in the the front door and going out the back. It also showed me my client with his back to his partner, and his partner pick-pocketing him. As all of my readings are by email, I had all of this written down before I had time to think about it. As soon as I realized what had come through, I was alarmed. People give a tremendous amount of weight to what we communicate, so doing readings is a great responsibility. Since the information I had been given was likely to destroy the relationship involved, it would be a travesty if it were somehow inaccurate.

I asked Spirit what to do and I was shown the same information over again, so I sent the reading off with an extra prayer that it be used for the highest good of all. The client emailed me six weeks later to tell me that the business partner in question had tried to commit suicide. When I read those words, my heart nearly stopped! While in the hospital, the partner had confessed to stealing from my client. My client was writing to thank me for the reading; he explained that because he had been forewarned, he was able to forgive the partner and support him in finding the will to live again. He wrote that a beautiful healing had take place between them, and he attributed this in part to having been forewarned via the reading. This was a great reminder to me that we can always trust Spirit’s guidance.

You will never hear back from many of the clients who reject the information in a reading but later change their minds about it when it proves true. Others you may hear back from much later. Just last week I received an email from a woman who wrote to apologize to me because she is trying hard to become a better person and make amends to anyone she believes she has wronged. She recently came across a reading I did for her in 2006 along with the correspondence we had exchanged. She was writing to apologize for her negative reaction to the reading and to ask if I would be willing to read for her again. This sort of thing has happened a number of times over the years. I wouldn’t say it’s a common experience, however, for my goal is always to communicate whatever is given in such a way that it will be readily received.

I applaud you in taking such care with your client’s emotional well-being; spiritual counseling is a huge responsibility and all sorts of tricky situations can arise. As for the karma we may incur by not communicating something, if we set a loving, helpful intention and ask Spirit to guide us in fulfilling it, we have nothing but good karma to gain. Spirit always knows the path to love, peace and healing, so if we develop a clear channel to a high level of wisdom and remember to ask for guidance whenever we are unsure about what to do, every reading will ultimately prove positive.


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