Dear Soul Arcanum:
Most of the psychics I have consulted have told me to wait for this married man because they see us together someday. He has been married about 35 years, and although the marriage is not good, I have a hard time believing he will ever divorce because of family pressure. We had a brief relationship two years ago, when I fell in love with him. I have waited for him to divorce so that maybe we could have another chance at a relationship. A number of psychics have told me they see us together possibly next year, and that he will decide to divorce. Should I trust what I feel inside (that it’s not going to happen), or am I just being insecure and wanting more than he can give me right now, and thus clouding my intuition? Should I listen to those who have “gifts” I don’t possess, trust that they see something I don’t, and take their advice to wait for this man? I do love him and would like to have the faith that they tell me to have, but the waiting is hard and I also don’t want to be stupid. I am advised to wait more often than I am not, but frankly, I don’t hear from him much any more.
Thank you!
– Rosanne
Dear Rosanne:
Basically, your question is what you should do if your own gut/intuition disagrees with what a psychic tells you. The answer: always put your own inner truth first! When we go against our own instincts to do what our parents tell us to do, what our spouse thinks is right, or what a psychic advises, we grow away from our true path and feel more and more like something is missing in our lives. We also find it harder and harder to access our inner guidance, so we end up feeling more and more lost and frustrated.
You are the ultimate authority on your own life, not just because you are the closest to it, but also because what you believe will happen is what you will generally experience. We get what we expect in life because we do create our own realities. Thus a hundred psychics could tell you that you will marry this man, but if you don’t believe it’s possible or destined yourself, it won’t come together. A hundred psychics could tell you that you won’t find true love, but if you believe in your heart you will, then you WILL.
It is very important to view psychic readings as simply one perspective on your situation. Hopefully, that perspective will prove to be a source of comfort, inspiration, encouragement and enlightenment. It will help you to determine how you really feel, what you really want, what is really happening beneath the surface, where things are heading, and how you can align with true fulfillment. The guidance in a reading should resonate with you deep within. If it doesn’t, throw it out!
One of the first psychics I ever consulted (many years ago) told me that I had no psychic gifts and would never end up working in this field. As soon as she said those words, I knew how wrong they were. I learned a lot from that experience – like what NOT to do as a reader, as well as what I knew to be true myself.
I encourage every one of my clients to trust their own inner knowing above anything I might communicate in a reading. Here is an excerpt to the introduction I always use in my email readings:
“I pray that you will listen to your own inner guidance in interpreting this reading, and disregard anything that does not ring true to you. You already know the answers you are seeking, but perhaps have trouble believing those answers or consciously accessing that knowledge. When something in this reading makes you say to yourself, ‘Ah, yes, that is so true,’ that is you recognizing that which you already knew to be true in your heart.”
We all have an inner compass that gauges the truth for us. When someone says something that really “hits the nail on the head,” this little switch inside lights up. When someone tells us something that is untrue or off somehow, it feels like something in our guts actually pushes it away, rejecting it.
We become confused or unsure of our true paths when we’re blinded by attachments to things going a certain way, and can’t be objective. The reading process is designed to lift us above this confusion born of ego/fear/desire. This will only happen, however, if we infuse the reading with this power by taking a sacred approach.
While there are many advantages of consulting psychics online or via the phone, the downside is that it’s too easy to be casual about it. When you go see a spiritual counselor in person, she can draw you into the sacred vibration of true communion with Spirit. When you’re consulting with a psychic from a distance, you have to take responsibility for that yourself. When a reading is approached carelessly, it’s not going to prove powerful and useful, for the energy you put into it will determine what you get out of it. If you pray sincerely for answers to come to you from Spirit, then THEY WILL COME. They will either come to you through the words in the reading or through your own inner knowing. As I described above, sometimes that inner knowing is a strong rejection of what the psychic says. If this happens in a reading, the psychic may not have come through for you, but Spirit sure did.
Which will you trust more: a psychic stranger, or the Divine whispering in your own heart?
As for your situation in particular, I see a man who is all tied up in knots, and while he may claim that others have tied him up, those knots are of his own making. If you think about it, he really is “free to go.” He is choosing to put other matters before his feelings for you. That’s entirely his prerogative – but it’s not what you really want in love.
You are being urged to rise above the question of whether this man is going to get a divorce to be with you and simply focus on what YOU want in love with faith that it will come you. Visualize a man who puts nothing before his love for you. Imagine yourself feeling like the center of someone’s universe: adored, cherished and appreciated. You deserve more and better than waiting for some guy you had a fling with two years ago to wake up, get a divorce, and devote his heart to you. The odds of him choosing to do this are slim, while your ability to manifest the kind of love you want in general is infinite – provided you work with the law of attraction to manifest this in your life. If you align with fulfillment then this man might step up to the plate, but if he doesn’t, then another will. Stay open to your good coming to you through whatever channel is most open. Your only job is to become the adored, cherished lover you wish to be in your own mind and heart.
Psychics are not infallible any more than stock brokers, therapists or doctors are infallible, and even the best psychic won’t prove powerful and helpful to a client who is blocked or blinded by her own fears and desires. I advise everyone to check what they are told against their own inner knowing. If you regularly consult psychics and often feel they’re “wrong” then quit consulting psychics – you don’t need them anymore! If you find a psychic who always resonates with your own inner knowing, who knows how to help you to get clear on what you want and should do, then stick with her. If she should ever feel “off,” however, keep her words in mind as you move forward, but go with your own gut.
We’ve all been given a divine inner compass to help us feel our way through life. The more we listen to our intuition, the stronger and clearer it will get. To be truly fulfilled, we have to do more than just listen, however; we have to honor our intuition by basing our choices on it above all else.
– Soul Arcanum
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